SNAIL - our mascot
A snail is our mascot for healthy relationships because snails move very slow.
True or Yes or Right
What is a pink flag?
Pink flags are feelings or thoughts that something about the another person's behavior is not right. These are small things, and we should address them with our words.
I trust myself and the other person.
Green flag
True or false. Building a healthy relationship means that I love and respect myself first.
True. We need to have self-respect and self-love first, to then respect and love others in a healthy way.
You just met someone (on social media), and they are asking me to meet them at their house.
What is your healthy response?
What does the shape of the snail's shell help us to remember?
To listen to others in relationships.
What is an example of a pink flag?
Examples: Staring at others; borrowing something and forgetting to give it back; going with our friend and spending too much money.
The other person steals from the grocery store, and asks me to steal also.
Red flag
True or False. There are two levels of friendships or relationships.
False. There are four levels: acquaintance, casual friendship, close friendship and intimate friendship.
I asked someone to meet me at the mall, and then I told the person exactly what stores to go to. We only have time for my stores.
What is the pink flag, and how can we fix it?
True or False. We help build healthy friendships when our words and our actions match.
True
True or false. A pink flag problem should be discussed openly and respectfully with the other person.
True.
I am beginning to become close to the other person, and I have asked them to respect my privacy. They respect my wishes.
Green flag
At what level of friendship should I share my personal address?
Close friendship.
I do not know anything about the likes or interests of my friend.
How can you fix this?
What can we get from going slow in relationships/friendships?
Example Answers: Safety, trust, respect, freedom and joy
What is a red flag?
A red flag is something illegal, someone not respecting your personal space, someone overusing drugs or alcohol, or asking you to do something illegal.
My friend invites me to a get together and we go together, but then barely talks to me when we are there.
Pink flag
Name one way to become closer friends with someone.
Example answers: build a conversation with them, respect their boundaries, meet up in a public place, ask the person about their goals or dreams, follow through on my word, etc.
I told my friend that I would not be available on the phone, but they are calling or messaging me over and over.
What is the pink flag, and how can you fix it?
What do we need to negotiate with others? (Give examples.)
We should negotiate activities we like to do and also negotiate the level of our friendship.
What should you do if you notice a red flag?
Have an exit plan. Always remember safety rules to not share personal information online, make sure you meet people in public places first and that someone you trust knows where you are, and leave if you need to.
Pink flag
What are the four most important ingredients to any healthy relationship?
Trust, Respect, Open and Honest Communication, and Shared Goals
I saw someone that I liked in public. I wanted to follow the person and stare at them.
This sounds like a red or pink flag. How can we fix this pink flag?