Green Flags in a Relationship
What does a green flag mean in a relationship?
Something that you want in a relationship, a sign of a healthy relationship, etc. (multiple answers apply)
What does a red flag mean in a relationship?
Something you don’t want in a relationship, a sign of an unhealthy relationship, etc. (multiple answers apply)
What does consent mean in a relationship?
Putting limits on how and when you are touched
What are boundaries in a relationship?
The limits of appropriate behavior between people (multiple answers apply)
What is positive communication in a relationship?
Interactions based on positive emotions, especially respect (multiple answers apply)
What is one example of a green flag in a relationship?
Mutual respect, trust, honesty, etc. (multiple answers apply)
What is one example of a red flag in a relationship?
Jealousy, manipulation, dishonesty, etc. (multiple answers apply)
Why is it important to give and receive consent in a relationship?
It helps you set strict boundaries (multiple answers apply)
True or false: not accepting responsibility for your partners actions is an example of emotional boundaries?
True- you are only responsible for your own actions
What is one example of positive communication in a relationship?
using “I” statements, having empathy, active listening, problem solving, expressing appreciation, speaking warmly, speaking briefly, and listening deeply
Lisa finds it very easy to talk to her partner and always has things they can do together. You could say Lisa and her partner have _________ (what green flag?)
Common interests
Lisa often relies on her partner for happiness and becomes anxious when her partner is not around. You could say Lisa is ________ on her partner (what red flag?)
dependent/dependence
True or false: when a person gives you consent to touch them, that means boundaries no longer apply.
FALSE- you are expected to continue respecting that person’s boundaries, whether they are expressed verbally or physically
What is one example of a healthy boundary in a relationship?
Autonomy/independence, setting expectations, separating wants from partners’ wants, feelings physically and emotionally comfortable (multiple answers apply)
Lisa tells her partner how his inability to follow through on his commitments affects her emotionally instead of criticizing his behavior. Lisa is using what we call an "__" statement.
"I" statement
Michael always makes sure to fully understand what his partner is saying. Michael has ________ listening skills.
active listening skills
Michael often makes his partner feel bad in order to get them to do things for him. Michael is using what kind of manipulation tactic?
Guilt tripping
It’s important to never share this type of information with someone you meet online, especially if you haven’t met them in person.
Home address, phone number, or school (multiple answers apply)
Lisa’s partner often uses her items without asking, which often causes Lisa frustration. Lisa’s partner is disrespecting which type of the three boundaries?
Material boundaries
Instead of arguing, Lisa and her partner often work together to identify solutions when faced with difficult situations. This is an example of what positive communication strategy?
Problem solving
Displaying appreciation is important to a healthy relationship, which requires you to know your partner’s love language. What is one example of the five love languages?
Words of affirmations, material gifts, acts of service, quality time, or physical touch
Psychological research has found that there a four bad communication styles that predict separation in a relationship. What is one example of a bad communication style?
Stonewalling, contempt, criticism, defensiveness
We discussed three different types of boundaries. Lisa gives her partner consent to hold her hand. This is an example of which of the three boundaries?
Physical boundaries
Define autonomy in a relationship.
Having commitments, hobbies, and friends of your own and being free to have your own life
What is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another?
Empathy