Definitions
The invisible lines or rules we set for ourselves regarding how we want others to treat us
What are boundaries?
Maya’s boyfriend demands her phone password to prove she isn't hiding anything. This is a red flag in this specific boundary category.
What is a digital boundary?
Setting a boundary with a close friend always means you are mad at them.
What is False?
(Boundaries preserve relationships, not ruin them)
Give an example of a healthy physical boundary you might set with a casual acquaintance
What is a high-five/handshake instead of a hug (or asking for personal space)?
This type of boundary involves deciding how quickly you respond to messages late at night or how much energy you spend solving other people's problems.
What is a time or energy boundary?
The type of boundary that protects your thoughts, values, and personal choices from being dismissed or mocked.
What is an emotional boundary?
Sam wants to study, but his friend keeps teasing him and calling him boring until Sam gives in and goes to the mall. Sam experienced this type of pressure.
What is direct peer pressure (or verbal peer pressure)?
Healthy relationships allow room for both people to spend time alone or with other friends.
What is True?
Turn this blaming statement into a healthy I-Statement: "You always ignore my texts and it makes me mad."
What is "I feel hurt when my texts aren't answered, so I need us to communicate better when we are busy"? (Accept variations following the I-statement formula).
The "Broken Record" refusal strategy requires you to do this action when someone keeps pressuring you.
What is repeating the exact same "No" or refusal statement without changing your stance?
A healthy communication formula that focuses on your own feelings rather than blaming the other person.
What is an "I-Statement"?
Jordan tells Alex a private secret. Alex immediately tells three other people. Alex violated this core pillar of a healthy peer relationship.
What is trust (or confidentiality)?
All peer pressure is negative and harmful
What is False?
(Positive peer pressure can motivate peers to study, try new sports, or do community service)
Name two signs that a friendship has become one-sided or unhealthy
What are: only talking about one person's problems, constant jealousy, feeling drained after hanging out, or lack of support? (Accept any two valid answers).
This emotional term describes the ability to understand and share the feelings of a friend, which is crucial for healthy peer connections.
What is empathy?
The term used to describe relationships where power is shared equally and both people support each other’s personal growth.
What is a healthy relationship?
When asked to skip class, Taylor replies, "No thanks, I need to pass this test. Let's hang out at lunch instead." Taylor successfully used this kind of communication style.
What is assertive?
If you don't say "no" immediately when a boundary is crossed, you lose the right to set that boundary later.
What is False?
(You can establish or change your boundaries at any time)
Explain the difference between setting a healthy boundary and trying to control someone else's actions.
What is: A boundary focuses on your limits and actions ("I will leave if you yell"), while control dictates their actions ("You are not allowed to talk to them")
Constant checking, digital tracking, and demanding to see social media DMs are all forms of this digital relationship red flag.
What is digital monitoring (or digital harassment/surveillance)?
The type of subtle social pressure that relies on an entire group doing something, making an individual feel left out without anyone directly saying anything to them.
What is indirect peer pressure (or unspoken peer pressure)?
Pat tells Chris they are uncomfortable with public displays of affection. Chris stops doing it around school but gets cold and distant whenever they are together. Chris is displaying this color flag.
What is a yellow flag
In a truly healthy relationship, conflict and disagreements almost never happen.
What is False?
(Conflict is normal; the difference is how healthy relationships resolve it through communication).
Describe how a high school student can use the blame strategy to get out of an unsafe party situation without losing face with their peers.
What is blaming a strict parent, a fake family emergency, or a strict morning practice/job shift?
When a group uses silence, exclusion, or the "cold shoulder" to force a peer to conform to their rules, they are using this specific social tactic.
What is social ostracization (or exclusion/shunning) Also accept indirect peer pressure