Flags
Define red flag
When something happens that makes you feel uncomfortable, worried, sad, or anxious
These involve honesty, trust, respect and open communication between partners and they take effort and compromise from both people. There is no imbalance of power. Partners respect each other's independence, can make their own decisions without fear of retribution or retaliation, and share decisions.
What is a Healthy Relationship?
True or false - Whatever you post is not permanent.
False - everything you post is forever on the internet. Even when you delete a post or a picture, it is not really deleted.
What is an example of an assertive communication style when responding to the below situation?
You made dinner for the family but your younger sibling says "This is gross, why aren't you a better cook?"
Answers may vary, Assertive: Respectful but firm
Your partner/friend makes you feel like every problem in your relationship is always your fault. What type of relationship is this?
unhealthy relationship
What are some signs of emotional manipulation in a relationship? name at least 3
Name 4 characteristics of health relationships
Open communication, trust, respect, fun, joyful, supportive
True or False, you should leave your account public so that you can get as many followers as possible.
False, make your account private so you can control who follows and sees your content.
What is an example of a passive communication style when responding to the below situation?
You have to go home and watch your sibling but your best friend asks you to hand out a little longer.
Answers Vary. Passive: Goes along with everything
What is something you can do to cool down during a disagreement?
Take a time-out from the disagreement or limit your discussion time
Name 3 green flags that indicate a healthy relationship
Team work
Encouragement
Trust
Healthy boundaries
Mutual respect
Individuality
These red flags indicate an unhealthy relationship. Name at least 3.
gaslighting
Insults/ put downs
sharing images online and with others
violence (emotional, physical, mental and spiritual)
Doesn't respect boundaries
Yelling
What is Cyber bullying?
Being rude or cruel to others by posting harmful writing or engaging in forms of social bullying using the Internet.
What is an example of an aggressive communication style when responding to the below situation?
You just broke up with your partner and your friend is trying to console you.
Answers vary. Aggressive: Strong opinion, does not care for the feelings of others when communicating.
What is one way you can avoid making your partner/friend defensive when talking about a difficult issue?
Use "I" statements, talk about your own feelings, try to understand where the other person is coming from, avoid accusing the other person
What are common red flags? name 4
Common red flags include abuse of any kind, obsession, jealousy, pressure, lying, gaslighting and manipulation.
Your friend is in a relationship and you have noticed that their partner is getting angry at them when they hang out with their friends, is constantly asking them where they are, and they seem extremely in love one day and heartbroken the next. Do you think this is a healthy or unhealthy relationship?
Yes. The warning signs would include controlling who they spend time with, constantly needing to know where they are, and the back and forth emotional toll.
What are Cyber threats?
Electronically used words that generally raise concerns that the person may intend to do harm.
What is an example of gaslighting when responding to the below situation?
You just got into a car accident and it was your fault.
Answers Vary. Gaslight: Making someone question their own reality
What are some signs that you are not communicating effectively with your partner/friend?
Not feeling comfortable or being afraid to express wants, needs, fears, etc.., or dreading/avoiding conversations about difficult topics
This is a form of emotional abuse. When a person manipulates the other that they're remembering things wrong or that they're misinterpreting events. Also when the other person presents their own thoughts and feelings as the truth.
What is Gaslighting?
Who can you go to for help if you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship? Name 2.
Parents
Teachers
Counselors
Friends/Older Siblings
Law Enforcement (if abuse is occurring)
You receive a picture from a friend that is provocative in nature, your friend encourages you to "pass it along" What should you do?
Delete the picture immediately and DO NOT SEND IT. Legal consequences can and will occur if you do.
What is an example of love bombing when responding to the below situation?
You are interested in a partner you met in class today.
Answers vary. Love bombing: Expressing an excessive amount of affection or attention
What are two things that will help you when you are trying to solve a conflict
Listening and treating everyone with respect
Do green flags erase red flags that a partner or person has?
No. A red flag is still a red flag no matter how many green flags a person has.
What should you do if a friend comes to you and their partner has physically or sexually abused them?
Report to a trusted adult, like parents, counselor, school official or law enforcement right away.
I cannot get in trouble for the things I say or post online. True or False
False, I can and will be held responsible for actions and post that I make online.
Why is feedback important in communicating?
To be able to respond. To insure they heard you. To communicate effectively
What are some things that can turn a conflict into a fight? Name at least 3
Making threats
giving ultimatums (ex: Do this, or else!)
accusing without listening
not being willing to apologize or take the blame
getting physical with your partner/friend