Types of Abuse
Red Flags
TDV Basics
Scenarios / Green Flags
Choose at your own risk
100
What are some examples of verbal abuse
Harassing, labeling, insulting, excessive yelling, scolding, using derogatory terms or slurs
100
TRUE or FALSE: Having red flags means someone is abusive
FALSE, red flags can be early warning signs of an unhealthy or potentially abusive relationship, but red flags does not automatically mean abusive
100
TRUE OR FALSE: TDV only happens in opposite gender relationships
FALSE, TDV can happen to anyone regardless of gender, race, sexuality, how much money they have, etc.
100
Jordan and Taylor are friends working on a group project due in two weeks. Jordan prefers to plan early and texts Taylor to figure out a time to work on it. Taylor, who works better under pressure, doesn’t respond right away, assuming there’s still time. Feeling ignored, Jordan does most of the project alone. When Taylor finally reaches out the day before it’s due, Jordan is upset, and Taylor feels left out and hurt.
What could have been done differently?
Staff will decide if the answer is correct
100
Who invented the Apple computer brand?
Steve Jobs
200
What are some examples of digital abuse?
Forcing you to share social media accounts and passwords, posting private info about you, posting photos without consent, using spyware/tracking
200
Explain how jealousy and anger can be red flags
Jealousy and anger are normal human emotions, but they become red flags when they aren't coped with correctly. Becoming controlling, not trusting your partner and having angry violent outbursts are examples of when this becomes a RED FLAG
200
Define Teen Dating Violence
Two people in a relationship where one is abusing the other (or they are both abusing each other)
200
Alex and Riley are best friends. Lately, Riley has been texting and calling Alex constantly about her problems, even late at night. Alex wants to help but starts feeling overwhelmed and stressed, falling behind on school and missing time with others.
What should Alex do?
Staff decides if correct, but some potential answers: Alex should communicate how she feels, Alex should set boundaries, Alex can tell Riley to check-in with how she's feeling before ranting about her problems
200
How many people have walked on the moon? (Hint its less than 20, need to be within 2 to get the points)
12 (10-14 answer gets points)
300
What are some examples of sexual abuse?
Touching someone's body without consent, forced sexual acts, sharing sexually graphic images, sexual harassment/verbal sexual assault, controlling birth control use, not respecting boundaries
300
Explain what isolation means as a red flag
Your partner controls who you hang out with, you start seeing your friends and family less until you eventually don't see them at all. Eventually the only person in your life becomes your partner, and that's a RED FLAG
300
1 in ____ young people will experience dating violence
3
300
Jamie notices that Morgan has been acting secretive with their phone—hiding the screen and deleting messages. Instead of asking Morgan about it, Jamie checks Morgan’s social media and tries to guess their phone password. Morgan finds out and feels hurt by the lack of trust. Later, Morgan reveals they were planning a surprise for Jamie’s birthday.
What could Jamie have done differently?
Staff will decide if the answer is correct
300
What's the human body's largest organ?
Skin
400
What are some examples of mental abuse? We'll give you an extra 200 points if you can define gaslighting.
Gaslighting: making someone question their own thinking or reality (i.e. "you never told me you were going out to dinner" when you did tell them)
Silent treatment, constant blaming, making you think you're mentally unstable or "psycho"
400
Explain lovebombing as a red flag
Moving too quickly, saying "I love you" after the first date, telling you how you're the most amazing person they've ever met or that they want to move in with you when they don't even know your favorite color or middle name, etc.
400
List 2 parts of the cycle of violence (Hint: there are 4 total)
400
Maya and Leo have been dating for a few months. Maya often keeps her deeper thoughts and feelings to herself, afraid Leo might not take them seriously.
What should Maya do?
Staff will decide if the answer is correct
400
Northern most state in the US?
Alaska
500
What are some examples of financial abuse
Controlling money flow / where paychecks go, staling money, forcing you to share bank accounts, overusing credit cards and not paying them, refusing to pay bills, making you financially depend on them
500
Explain how sexual pressure is a red flag
If you have boundaries in place and aren't ready for sex, but the person you're dating pressures you and doesn't respect your boundaries, that is a HUGE RED FLAG.
If someone genuinely cares about you, they will respect you, your body, and your wishes.
500
What are two safety planning tips we talked about?
Back up phone, planning your break up in a public place, social media safety/privacy, plan for unexpected encounters, code word/phrase, escape routes, safe location, having a go-bag/hurricane bag
500
List five green flag traits in a relationship (could be friendship or romantic)
Staff will decide if the answer is correct, but potential answers are: open communication, honesty, trust, authenticity, respect, similar values, vulnerability, ability to own up to mistakes and apologize, consistency, etc.
500
How many lugnuts are in a tire?
5