I Statements
Your schoolwork is too hard for you. You're feeling upset because you don't understand how to do it. You take your schoolwork and crumble into a ball and throw it. How could you use an "I" statement to tell someone how you're feeling instead? (I feel____ because ____. I need____.)
I feel frustrated (mad, upset, angry) because my work is too hard. I need help so I can understand it.
You and your friend are playing video games together and your friend plays rough with controller and almost breaks it. What boundary could you set with them?
"Please play with my games nicely." "Please stop playing rough with my games."
You feel safe around your friend and like you can tell them anything, even your secrets. What is this called?
Trust
True or False: Most friends argue in awhile.
True! Fighting with friends sometimes is normal. No friendship is perfect.
Can you name two healthy coping skills?
Breathing, coloring, fidgets, talking to someone, asking for a hug, asking for help
Your best friend won't talk to you. You want to yell at them. How could you use an I statement to express your feelings instead? (I feel____ because ____. I need____.)
I feel sad (upset, annoyed) when you do not talk to me. I need you to talk so we can work through our problems together.
Your friend in class isn't respecting your personal space and keeps touching you. You don't like it. How could you set a boundary with them?
"I don't like that you keep touching me. Can you please respect my personal space?"
Your friend is always quiet and pays attention to you when you are talking. This means that they are a ____.
Good listener
True or False: It's okay to hit someone who hurt your feelings.
False! It is never okay to put your hands on someone else.
Can you name two unhealthy coping skills?
Hitting, yelling, ignoring someone, throwing things, kicking, blaming
Your brother or sister broke your favorite game. You want to yell at them for what they did. How could you use an I statement to express how you're feeling instead? (I feel____ because ____. I need____.)
I feel sad (upset, angry) when you break my games. I need you to be more careful with them.
You've been trying to tell your friend a story, but they keep interrupting you. How could you set a boundary with them?
"Please stop interrupting me. I am trying to tell you something." "Please let me finish my story."
Your friend always tells the truth and never lies about anything. This means they are ___.
Honest
True! It's not always easy to forgive someone.
How can you tell you need to use a coping skill?
When you feel fidgety, upset, angry, annoyed, feel out of control
You tripped in front of your whole class and someone laughed at you. You feel upset and want to run of your classroom. How could you use an I statement to express how you're feeling instead? (I feel____ because ____. I need____.)
I feel upset (angry, sad, embarrassed) when you laugh at me. I need you to help me/not laugh/care about me when I trip.
Your friend is angry with you and starts to yell you. How could you set a boundary with them?
"Please stop yelling at me." "We can talk about this when you calm down." "I don't like that you are yelling at me. Can you say it calmly?"
What are healthy, safe ways to solve a problem with a friend?
Talking it out, take a break to calm down, use an "I" statement, talk about your feelings, ask them to explain their feelings
False! Ignoring someone who is trying to fix a problem is not helpful. It's important to communicate your feelings even though it can be hard sometimes.
What do coping skills help us do?
Calm down, relax, process emotions
You lost your first basketball game. You're upset and want to give up on basketball. How could you use an I statement to express how you're feeling instead? (I feel____ because ____. I need____.)
I feel disappointed/sad/upset when I lose a game. I need to work harder so I can try better next time.
Your friend is really upset with you and keeps yelling at you. They won't leave you alone even though you have asked them to stop. How could you set a boundary with them?
"I'm taking a break until you can talk to me calmly." Walk away. Get an adult. *Sometimes people do not take no for answer or respect our boundaries
How can you show a friend that you are a good listener?
Looking at them when they speak, not interrupting them or talking over them, eye contact
True or False: You shouldn't consider your friends feelings. Your opinion is always right.
Why is hitting someone a bad coping skill?
It is unsafe. You can really hurt someone. You might feel worse after. It doesn't truly help you feel better.