Healthy Relationships
Respect
Trust
Honesty
Communication
Support
Your friend reads your private messages without permission. What is the red flag?
Invading privacy / not respecting boundaries.
Your friend congratulates you after you achieve something important
Healthy - They are being supportive
A friend makes a joke about you that makes you uncomfortable. What could you say?
Clearly tell them the joke made you uncomfortable and ask them to stop.
What is a boundary?
A limit a person sets about what they are comfortable or uncomfortable with.
What does it mean to respect someone's boundaries?
Accepting their limits, choices and what they are or are not comfortable with
Someone constantly tells you who you can and cannot hang out with. What concerning behaviour are they showing?
Controlling behaviour
Two friends disagree about where they want to go on the weekend
It depends – disagreement is normal; how they communicate and resolve it determines whether the behaviour is healthy.
Your friend asks to read your private messages and you don't want them to. What could you say?
"I'm not comfortable with that. My messages are private." Or another respectful, assertive response.
What is trust in a relationship?
Feeling confident that another person will be honest, reliable and respectful.
Your friend tells you they disagree with you but listens to your opinion. What healthy relationship characteristic are they showing?
Respect/ Healthy Communication
Your friend says, "If you were actually my friend, you'd do this for me." What unhealthy behaviour could this demonstrate?
Guilt-tripping
Manipulation
Pressure
Your friend asks, "Who are you messaging?"
It depends – they may simply be curious, but repeated questioning motivated by jealousy or control could become unhealthy.
Your friend is angry because you're spending time with other friends. What is ONE healthy way to respond?
Communicate honestly, reassure them while maintaining your independence, and set an appropriate boundary.
What is the difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship?
Healthy relationships involve respect, trust, safety, communication and boundaries, while unhealthy relationships can involve disrespect, pressure, control or ignored boundaries.
Name THREE characteristics that contribute to a healthy relationship
Respect
Trust
Honesty
Communication
Support
Someone regularly puts their friend down in front of other people and says, "Relax, it's only a joke." Identify TWO red flags.
Humiliation/disrespect and dismissing the person's feelings or boundaries
Your friend gets jealous when you spend time with someone else
It depends – experiencing jealousy isn't automatically unhealthy; what matters is how they respond to the feeling
Your friend tells you someone is constantly checking their phone and telling them who they can talk to. Give TWO pieces of advice.
Talk to a trusted person/adult, set boundaries if safe, seek support, recognise that the behaviour is controlling, etc.
Name THREE different types of relationships a young person might have.
Family
Friendship
Romantic
Peer
Teacher/student
Coach/athlete
Explain why disagreements can still occur in a healthy relationship
People have different opinions and feelings. A relationship can remain healthy when disagreements are handled respectfully through communication, listening and compromise.
A person becomes angry whenever their friend spends time with other people and eventually convinces them to stop seeing those friends. Why is this particularly concerning?
It demonstrates control/isolation and limits the person's independence and other relationships
Your partner asks you to message them when you get home. Healthy, unhealthy or it depends? Explain.
It depends – it could demonstrate care, but it could become unhealthy if they demand constant updates or use it to monitor/control the person
Someone continues crossing a boundary after being clearly asked to stop. What should the person do?
Restate the boundary if appropriate, remove themselves from the situation if needed, and seek support from a trusted adult/person rather than feeling responsible for changing the other person's behaviour.
What FOUR things should you consider when deciding whether a behaviour in a relationship is healthy or unhealthy?
Context
Frequency
Intent
Impact