What makes a healthy relationship?
Name three characteristics of a healthy relationship
Trust, comfortable pace, honesty, independence, respect, equality, kindness, taking responsibility, healthy conflict, fun
Healthy or unhealthy? "Please don't be mad at me, I can't live without you. I only acted that way because I was drunk. If we break up I don't know what I would do"
Unhealthy - this is an example of guilting, deflecting responsibility
What is the highest grossing romance movie of all time?
The Titanic
True or False: All unhealthy couplings are abusive
False
True or False: sexual orientation played a factor in the proportion of Cornell students who experienced dating or domestic violence
True: 10.8% of undergraduates who identify as heterosexual reported experiencing domestic or dating violence since entering Cornell; this compares to 19.6% of undergraduates who identify as LGBTQIA+
True or false: perfectly healthy relationships don't exist
True - no relationships are perfect, and no one is healthy 100% of the time - but people should strive to have healthy behaviors in their relationships
How can social media posts provide a false narrative about how healthy a relationship is?
Posts are often very carefully curated to only show the happy parts of a relationship, even if it is actually unhealthy behind the post. Social media can also pressure someone to stay in an unhealthy relationship with positive reinforcement
Guess the song from the lyrics: "Cuz you were Romeo, I was a scarlet letter"
Love Story by Taylor Swift
Name three characteristics of unhealthy relationships
volatile, intense, possessive, manipulative, isolating, sabotage, belittling, guilting, deflecting responsibility, betrayal, etc.
What percentage of people who identify as having a disability reported experiencing domestic or dating violence?
20.4% (compared to 8% of people who identify as not having a disability)
Healthy or unhealthy (and why)? "I totally messed up, and I'm sorry that I didn't do the dishes. I just got caught up with work and forgot. But that was my responsibility - I'll make it up to you."
Healthy! Displays honesty, taking responsibility, equality, kindness
What are some signs or behaviors you might see in someone who is being isolated due to their unhealthy relationship?
Withdrawal from friends and family, missing classes or club meetings, dependence on partner for love and acceptance, not allowed to see certain people
What is the name of the unofficial holiday on February 13th?
Galentine's Day
Describe a circumstance that might make it harder for someone to leave an unhealthy relationship
power dynamics due to age difference/financial dependence, LGBTQIA+ relationship, cultural norms, etc.
Of the respondents who reported having experienced dating violence, who were they most likely to confide in about their experience? (ex. no one, family member, Cornell staff, faculty, friends, etc.)
Friends (68.2%)
True or false: avoiding arguments is a characteristic of healthy relationships
False! Being able to have healthy conflict is a key to healthy relationships. This often entails recognizing the root issue and addressing it respectfully before it escalates into something bigger, and avoiding judgment or belittling
What characteristic of unhealthy relationships is this an example of? "Are you really that stupid? You don't know why he keeps calling you at midnight?"
Belittling, posessivness
In which country did Valentine's Day originate?
Italy, during the Roman Empire
What are two strategies someone can use in their safety plan to break up with someone?
Tell people you're breaking up with your partner, break up in public, have a friend or family member on the phone, etc.
What percent of undergraduates have experienced domestic or dating violence since attending Cornell?
A. 5%
B. 10%
C. 15%
D. 20%
C. 15.6%
Name three other types of relationships that can be unhealthy, other than the romantic/sexual kind
Relationships with parents, friends, bosses/professional relationships
What is one resource someone can go to if they're in an unhealthy relationship and need help?
share.cornell.edu, domestic violence hotline, planned parenthood, CAPS/Cornell Health, your RA/RHD, Ithaca Advocacy Center, crisis textline, Title IX coordinator, LGBT Resource Center, Women's Resource Center
What is the TV show that created Galentine's Day?
Parks and Recreation
Why might it be harder for someone to leave an unhealthy LGBTQIA+ relationship?
What resource related to nonconsensual sexual or relationship experiences were students most aware of?
Cornell Health (95.9%)