Social Skills
What was the first social skill that was taught this week?
How to make a request
Who lead the group regarding releasing and preventing resentment in relationships?
Amanda
What does it mean to hold ourselves accountable?
To hold ourselves accountable, it means we are willing to take responsibility for our actions.
Who lead the group that handed out a worksheet called: Building Your Support System to Overcome Your Anxiety?
Mandolin
True or False: When making a request you should stare the person your making the request to straight in the eyes the entire time your speaking to them.
False- It is important to be mindful not to stare at one single spoon the speakers face. This could result in the other person becoming uncomfortable. Occasional break of eye contact is the best.
To release or prevent resentment in your relationships what should you do with your feelings even if they are negative?
You should acknowledge your feelings, even if they are negative. Feeling's are never bad. When you experience painful emotions, label them and acknowledge them.
There are 4 steps that we can take to hold ourselves accountable. Which of the following is not one of those steps.
A. Adjust Your Attitude
B. Write Things Down
C. Create a Strategy
D. Do Things Independently
D.- Do things independently
We should ask for help. Others can help support us and helps us work towards our goals.
True or False? People with anxiety disorders often find themselves isolated from others?
True
Why is the following statement a great example of how to make an effective request?
"I understand that you like to have creamer in your coffee, but if you would put the creamer back in the refrigerator after using it, the creamer would stay fresher longer, and I would appreciate it."
This statement indicates precisely what is wanted (putting the creamer back in the fridge after using it.). You also state how you would feel if the request is carried out (I would appreciate it.)
Who does it hurt when you hold a grudge?
It hurts you more than than the other person. If you harbor anger, resentment, and even hatred toward someone else, it can impact other areas of your life negatively.
Why does motivation decrease and good intentions fade sometimes when we are trying to accomplish something?
- We don't feel the pressure of a deadline
- We aren't really clear on what we need to do to get the results you want
- We may not even know what we want or there could be so many things we want to accomplish that we don't know where to start.
When finding a support person to help overcome our anxiety, we should try and find someone who helps do WHAT with our self-confidence?
Build it!
True or False: The following statement is a good example of how to make an effective request: "Put things away."
Why is this true or false?
False- This statement is indirect. You are not being clear on what you want to be put away.
In the article 8 Ways to Release and Prevent Resentment in Any Relationship, what does it suggest you do to help with the process of forgiveness?
Creating a list of reason why forgiveness can be helpful.
Look at what positive things could happen if you let go of those negative emotions that have been building up.
When holding ourselves accountable it is important to write things down. Why is this helpful and important.
Taking the time to explicitly describe what we ant to accomplish has an impact on how we approach a task. Having a general goal in mind is not enough. Writing down a vague target is also not enough. You need to put pen to paper and see your thoughts and ideas on a page.
Avoiding people to avoid your anxiety will cause you two problems. What is one of them?
1. You will miss many opportunities to enjoy your life which can only happen in the company of others.
2. You will likely prolong this psychological problem. It will get worse!
Name two of the three steps of making an effective request.
1. Look at the person.
2. Say exactly what you would like the person to do, and why you need/want it.
3. Tell the person how you would feel, if your request is carried out.
It's unrealistic to expect that people will always behave in a way that is pleasing to you. Everyone makes choices in life and there will be times when you don't like the choices that someone else makes. So it's important to do what? (Way number 7 to prevent and release resentment in relationships.
Accept that people aren't perfect.
The bottom line is, no matter how many motivational posts, self-help books, or informational articles you read, you have to do WHAT?
The WORK!
Often you'll find you can get the support you need by just __________.
Asking for it?