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Scenario:
Your classmate borrowed your pen without asking and forgot to return it.
“I felt annoyed when my pen was taken without asking because I needed it. I’d appreciate it if you could ask before borrowing it next time.”
Scenario:
You were sharing an idea in class, but your friend kept interrupting.
“I felt frustrated when I was interrupted because I wanted to finish my idea. I’d like a chance to complete what I was saying.”
Scenario:
Your partner didn’t help with the group project.
“I felt stressed when I had to do most of the work because it was supposed to be a team effort. I’d like us to divide the work more equally next time.”
Scenario:
Someone sat in the seat where you usually sit without asking.
“I felt surprised when my usual seat was taken because I normally sit there. Could we talk about where we’d like to sit?”
Scenario:
Your friend kept talking while you were trying to study.
“I found it hard to concentrate when there was a lot of talking because I was studying. I’d appreciate some quiet for a little while.”
Scenario:
Everyone in your friend group was invited to a birthday party except you.
“I felt hurt when I wasn’t invited because I thought we were close friends. I’d like to understand if there was a reason.”
Scenario:
Your friend told someone a secret you had shared.
“I felt disappointed when my secret was shared because I trusted you. I’d like us to keep personal things private.”
Scenario:
Your friends started sitting together without saving you a place.
“I felt left out when there wasn’t a place for me because I enjoy eating with you all. I’d like to join you if possible.”
Scenario:
Your friends made plans without telling you.
“I felt left out when I found out about the plans later because I would have liked to come. I’d appreciate being included next time.”
Scenario:
Your friend keeps cancelling plans at the last minute.
“I felt disappointed when our plans were cancelled because I was looking forward to meeting. I’d appreciate more notice if something changes.”
Scenario:
You heard that someone has been spreading a rumour about you.
“I felt upset when I heard the rumour because it affected how people treated me. I’d like to know if it’s true and clear up the misunderstanding.”
Scenario:
Your friend keeps making jokes about you that everyone laughs at.
“I felt embarrassed when those jokes were made because they hurt my feelings. I’d appreciate it if we could joke without making me uncomfortable.”
Scenario:
Your message in the group chat was ignored while everyone responded to others.
“I felt ignored when my message didn’t get a response because I wanted to be part of the conversation. I’d appreciate being included.”
Scenario:
A teacher corrected you in front of the whole class.
“I felt embarrassed when I was corrected in front of everyone because it made me self-conscious. I’d appreciate feedback privately if possible.”
Scenario:
Your friend blamed you for something you didn’t do.
“I felt upset when I was blamed because I wasn’t responsible. I’d like us to talk about what really happened.”
Scenario:
Your friends chose everyone else for their sports team before picking you.
“I felt discouraged when I was picked last because it made me feel unwanted. I’d like to know how I can improve and still feel included.”
Scenario:
Someone commented something hurtful about your photo.
“I felt hurt when I read that comment because it affected my confidence. I’d like us to speak respectfully online.”
Scenario:
Your parent couldn’t attend your school event.
“I felt disappointed when you couldn’t come because it was important to me. I’d like to tell you how the event went and spend some time together.”
Scenario:
Your best friend suddenly stopped talking to you.
“I felt confused when we stopped talking because our friendship matters to me. I’d like to understand what’s going on.”
Scenario:
You discover your friends have another group chat without you.
“I felt hurt when I found out about the other group because I wondered if I had done something wrong. I’d like to understand what happened.”
Scenario:
Your close friend wants to copy your homework and says, “If you’re really my friend, you’ll let me.”
“I feel uncomfortable when I’m asked to share my homework because I don’t want either of us to get into trouble. I’d like to help you understand the work instead.”
Scenario:
Your friends are making fun of another student and expect you to join in.
“I feel uncomfortable making fun of someone because I don’t think it’s kind. I’d rather not join in.”
Scenario:
Your friend raises their voice whenever you disagree.
“I feel overwhelmed when we’re shouting because it’s hard for me to explain my thoughts. I’d like us to talk calmly.”
Scenario:
Your classmate presented your idea as their own.
“I felt disappointed when my idea wasn’t acknowledged because I worked hard on it. I’d like us to give credit fairly.”
Scenario:
Your best friend has started spending more time with someone else.
“I felt a little left out because we haven’t been spending as much time together. I value our friendship and would love to spend time with you when we can.”