At School
Eddie and his friends are talking by their lockers when Alma and Jackie walk by. Eddie's friends start making sexual gestures at the girls. His friends ask if they're lesbians or going to kiss each other. Eddie notices the girls roll their eyes and become upset. How can Eddie Step In?
Direct: Eddie tells his friends to leave them alone.
Delegate: Eddie nudges one of his friends and says "Why are they acting so immature?" in an effort to get someone else on his side.
Distract: Eddie tells his friends a teacher is coming to get them to stop.
Deliver: Later on during break, Eddie apologizes to Alma and Jackie for his friends jokes and asks if he can eat lunch with them.
Kylie notices that someone she follows from her school reposted a meme poking fun at sexual assault victim. How can Kylie Step In?
Direct: Kylie responds to the post saying this isn't funny and is harmful to victims of violence.
Delegate: Kylie reports the post.
Distract: Kylie reaches out to a support line or friend.
Deliver: At school the next day, Kylie confronts the person who reposted the meme.
At a party, Darcy notices another girl, Teresa, being lead upstairs by a guy she doesn't recognize. Teresa is stumbling, tripping over herself, and slouched over. How can Darcy Step In?
Direct: Darcy goes up to the couple and tells the guy to leave Teresa alone, saying that Teresa has had too much to drink.
Delegate: Darcy points out the couple to someone else and asks them to intervene.
Distract: Darcy goes up to Teresa saying she's been looking for her all night and needs her for a group picture.
Deliver: Darcy checks in with Teresa the day after the party to see if she's okay.
Lanie is at the gym when she notices an older man filming another woman working out. The woman does not know she is being filmed. How can Lanie Step In?
Direct: If it's safe to do so, Lanie can confront the man and ask why he is recording. Or Lanie can tell the woman she is being filmed.
Delegate: Lanie can let one of the gym staff members know what's going on.
Distract: Lanie can ask the woman to show her where the bathroom is or try to lead her somewhere private to tell her what's going on.
Deliver: After the man has left, Lanie can check in with the woman to see if she's okay.
Jody notices that her friend, Tonya, keeps receiving forceful physical contact from her partner, Ashley. Sometimes at school Ashley grabs Tonya's arms and yanks her away or shoves her around. Jody notices Tonya looks uncomfortable. How can Jody Step In?
Direct: When this happens again, Jody tells Ashley that she's hurting Tonya.
Delegate: Jody checks in with a different friend and asks if they've noticed this too. Together they make a plan.
Distract: When Jody sees Tonya looking uncomfortable with Ashley, she approaches them both and asks Tonya to help her with a homework assignment.
Deliver: Jody asks Tonya to hang out after school and checks in with her. Jody tells her what she's noticed and asks if Tonya is doing okay.
In one of their group chats, Michael's friend sends a screenshot of a nude photo his girlfriend sent him. How can Michael Step In?
Direct: Michael immediately replies telling his friend it's not okay to send this without his girlfriend's consent.
Delegate: Michael turns to a trusted adult to ask for advice about what to do.
Distract: Michael tries to spam the chat with funny memes and TikToks to change the subject.
Deliver: Michael reaches out to the girl from the photo and tells him about his friend sharing her image. He reminds her of available resources.
Liam notices his friend Casey repeatedly telling her boyfriend that she doesn't want to drink, but he keeps pressuring her to have more. How can Liam Step In?
Direct: Liam pulls the boyfriend aside and tells him Casey said no and that it's not okay to keep pressuring her.
Delegate: Liam calls a mutual friend over. Liam knows that person is more outspoken than him and will directly intervene.
Distract: Liam starts asking the boyfriend questions about himself to strike up a different conversation.
Deliver: After the party, Liam asks Casey if her boyfriend is always like that and if she's doing okay.
Micah is at the park when he notices two girls from his school. He sees a man he doesn't know approach the girls, he isn't sure what's happening but notices the girls look frightened and uncomfortable. How can Micah Step In?
Direct: If it's safe to do so, Micah can tell the man to leave the girls alone.
Delegate: Micah might find someone nearby to ask for help or call 911 if needed.
Distract: Micah can approach the girls and strike up conversation with them to help them feel safer.
Deliver: Micah can approach the girls later on at school and ask if they're doing okay.
Alex sees his friend Chris repeatedly sending unwanted flirty texts and pictures to a girl in class, even though she's already told him she isn't interested. How can Alex Step In?
Direct: Alex talks to Chris about what he's doing and emphasizes the girl has said no. Alex reminds Chris it's not okay to pressure someone.
Delegate: Alex asks another friend if they've noticed Chris doing the same thing. Together Alex and a friend plan to do something with Chris after school to help him forget about the girl.
Distract: Alex asks Chris for help on the class assignment.
Deliver: Alex checks in with the girl and asks how she feels about the situation.
Matt's best friend, Craig, tells him that his girlfriend doesn't let him have any privacy online. Craig says his girlfriend has the password to his phone and all his social media accounts. She even has his location and calls him repeatedly until he picks up whenever he's not at home or school. How can Matt Step In?
Direct: Matt talks to Craig about his girlfriend's behavior and expresses his concerns.
Delegate: Matt goes online to try to learn more about what abuse in relationships looks like.
Deliver: Matt connects Craig to a resources about dating abuse.
Jessica and her girl friends are having their annual sleepover before the school year starts. All of the other girls start questioning Amber's sexuality because she is bisexual. They ask Amber things like "you're probably just scared to admit you're a lesbian aren't you?" How can Jessica Step In?
Direct: Jessica tells the girls to leave Amber alone and that it's not okay to question her sexuality.
Delegate: Jessica asks another friend to back her up in directly confronting the group.
Distract: Jessica shows the girls a new TikTok dance they should do together.
Deliver: Jessica texts Amber the next day after the sleepover and asks how she's doing.
Marcus is at the gym when he notices a group of guys his age harassing a girl he doesn't know that is trying to workout. How can Marcus Step In?
Direct: Marcus can tell the guys to leave her alone.
Delegate: Marcus can talk to one of the staff members at the gym and tell them what's going on.
Distract: Marcus can ask the girl to spot him or help show him to use some equipment.
Deliver: When the guys leave, Marcus can check in with the girl and ask if she's okay.
Kaymen's eating lunch when Jamie sits down and starts to share the latest rumor she's heard. Jamie tells the group, Kai, a transgender student, "tricks" people into dating him without revealing he's trans. How can Kaymen Step In?
Direct: Kaymen tell Jamie not to spread rumors and that can be really harmful to Kai.
Delegate: Kaymen turns toward someone else in the friend group for support in confronting Jamie.
Distract: Kaymen immediately tries to change the subject by showing a funny TikTok that just came on her FYP.
Deliver: Later on, Kaymen checks in with Kai and offers support. She doesn't confront him about the rumor but simply asks if he wants to hang out.
Logan, a nonbinary student, likes to post selfies of themselves on Instagram. Amy notices the same profile commenting on every one of Logan's picture "Just decide if you're a boy or girl already." How can Amy Step In?
Direct: Amy messages Logan, telling them the comments are stupid and to ignore the troll online.
Delegate: Amy reports the comment or the profile page.
Distract: Amy leaves her own comment on Logan's page complimenting or hyping them up.
Deliver: Amy asks Logan at school how they're dealing with the hateful comments and if they need a friend.
Sarah is at a party when she notices Mason sit next to a girl she doesn't recognize on the couch. Mason puts his arm around the girl, who then immediately tries to leave but Mason pulls her back down. The girl looks uncomfortable. How can Sarah Step In?
Direct: Sarah asks the girl if she wants to be talking to Mason and tells him to leave her alone.
Delegate: Sarah asks one of her male friends to intervene and pull Mason away.
Distract: Sarah goes up to Mason and asks him to come take a picture with her.
Deliver: As the party goes on, Sarah finds an opportunity to check in on the girl when she's alone and asks if she's okay.
Kim takes the public bus to school and notices Elena, a girl from her school on the bus one morning. Kim sees an older man stand very close to Elena, she moves away but the man keeps getting closer. How can Kim Step In?
Direct: It might not be safe for Kim to directly confront the man for both her and Elena's safety.
Delegate: Kim tells the bus driver what's going on and asks for help.
Distract: Kim waves to Elena and asks if she wants to sit together.
Deliver: When they get off the bus, Kim asks Elena if she's okay and reminds her of counseling resources.
Olivia sees her friend, Maya, often skipping lunch to avoid sitting with her boyfriend, Todd. Todd tries to control what Maya eats by criticizing her body in front of others and making jokes about her weight. How can Olivia Step In?
Direct: When Todd starts making jokes or comments, Olivia tells him it's not right to treat Maya that way.
Delegate: Olivia asks one of Todds friends to distract him at lunch so he doesn't sit with them anymore.
Distract: Olivia asks Maya if she wants to eat lunch together separate from their normal group.
Deliver: Olivia asks Maya to hang out after school. She asks how she's doing and reminds Maya of resources like the school counselor or a support line.
Monica sees that someone has posted a video from a party. In the video, she sees a girl she knows from school visibly drunk and being pressured into making out with someone. The video starts going viral at school. How can Monica Step In?
Direct: Monica asks the person to take down the video and tells them this is wrong. She reshares a post on her own story about consent.
Delegate: Monica reports the video or tells a trusted adult about the situation.
Distract: When people bring up or share the video at school, Monica tries to change the subject.
Deliver: Monica connects with the girl from the video at school and asks if she's okay.
Rachel and her boyfriend have been together for a few months. At a party, Lily notices Rachel is acting very controlling with her boyfriend. Rachel grabs him by the arm and pulls him away when he's talking to someone or shoots him dirty looks when she sees him laughing with his friends. Rachel even tells Lily, "He knows that he better act right." How can Lily Step In?
Direct: Lily tells Rachel she's acting very controlling and her boyfriend deserves to have his own space.
Delegate: Lily asks one of their mutual friends about Rachel's behavior and asks for advice on how to confront her.
Distract: Lily tries to distract Rachel throughout the night, inviting her to dance or mingle with other people.
Deliver: The next day, Lily talks to Rachel about her behavior at the party.
At the mall, Sophia, a high school freshman, sees an older couple fighting. They look to be in their 20s and the man is screaming at his girlfriend and shoves her against a wall.
Direct: Sophia's safety comes first. Directly intervening might endanger her.
Delegate: Sophia can find a security guard or another adult for help. She can also dial 911.
Distract: Attempting to distract or insert herself into the situation might also put Sophia in danger.
Deliver: Sophia might not be able to connect with the woman as it may not be safe to stay in the area.