Healthy or Unhealthy?
Your partner gets angry when you talk to your family and friends.
VERYYYY Unhealthy: for obvious reasons...
In most decisions, one partner’s preferences “just happen” to win because they’re more assertive.
What is this an example of...A) Manipulation
B) Power Imbalance
C) Narcissistic Abuse
B
A couple can disagree without name-calling or sarcasm.
A. Conflict Avoidance
B. Emotional Neutrality
C. Healthy Conflict
D. Passive Agreement
C) Healthy Conflict
A partner needs reassurance during stress but can self-soothe when alone.
A. Learned Independence
B. Balanced Dependence
C. Emotional Maturity
D. Secure Attachment
D) Secure Attachment
A partner occasionally gets defensive but later reflects and apologizes.
Yellow Flag
Alex and Jordan share their phone passcodes. Jordan occasionally checks Alex’s phone, but only after asking and receiving permission. Alex says it doesn’t bother them.
Healthy: The key here is communication. They both agree to the circumstances without pressure from the other.
A partner frames their jealousy as “passion” and says it proves how much they care.
A) Love-bombing
B) Emotional Justification of control
C) Suffocative Manipulation Tactic
B) Emotional Justification of control
During arguments, one partner shuts down and refuses to speak for hours.
A. Emotional Withdrawal
B. Silent Treatment
C. Conflict Fatigue
D. Stonewalling
D) Stonewalling
Someone fears abandonment and seeks constant closeness, even when their partner asks for space.
A. Emotional Dependence
B. Codependency
C. Anxious Attachment
D. Trauma Bonding
C) Anxious Attachment
A partner has difficulty respecting boundaries but apologizes every time it happens.
Yellow Flag
A partner says, “I don’t like your friends — they’re a bad influence,” and repeatedly discourages spending time with them, but insists it’s “out of concern.”
Unhealthy: This scenario involves isolation---when a partner forces you to cut ties with your other relationships.
One person controls shared finances because they’re “better with money,” and the other doesn’t know account details.
a) Financial Delegation
b) financial control
c) Asymmetric financial management
b) financial control
A partner brings up unrelated past mistakes during every new disagreement.
A. Grudge Holding
B. Scorekeeping
C. Retrospective Blaming
D. Kitchen-Sinking
D) Kitchen-Sinking
A partner values independence so strongly that they dismiss emotional conversations.
A. Secure Detachment
B. Emotional Minimalism
C. Self-Reliant Coping
D. Avoidant Attachment
D) Avoidant Attachment
A partner blames stress, alcohol, or childhood for harmful behavior without seeking change.
Red Flag
Your partner supports you in your extracurriculars and passions. They come to your practices and events. When you ask them for some alone time, they say that you don't appreciate their support.
Unhealthy: Manipulation
A partner changes their behavior only when consequences are threatened, not when concerns are expressed.
a) selective hearing
b) ultimatum filtering
c) conditional respect
d) deflective adaptationc) conditional respect
Someone avoids expressing needs because they don’t want to “rock the boat.”
A. People-Pleasing
B. Conflict Avoidance
C. Emotional Suppression
D. Self-Silencing
C) Self-Silencing: leads to resentment over time
A relationship feels intense early on, with rapid emotional closeness and pressure to commit quickly.
A. Passion Escalation
B. Romantic Idealization
C. Fast-Tracked Intimacy
D. Love Bombing
D) Love Bombing
TRUE OR FALSE!: Every Partner Deserves a second chance
FALSE
Someone feels obligated to stay in a relationship because their partner frequently reminds them of everything they’ve sacrificed.
Unhealthy: Guilt-based obligation undermines autonomy and is associated with emotional manipulation.
A partner apologizes after hurting someone but follows it with, “You’re just too sensitive.”
a) deficit apology
b) emotional invalidation
c) minimization
c) minimization
A couple argues intensely but consistently repairs afterward through accountability and reassurance.
A. Conflict Cycling
B. Emotional Regulation
C. Rupture-Tolerance
D. Healthy Repair
D) Healthy Repair
Someone confuses emotional pain with passion and believes calm relationships feel “boring.”
A. Attachment Anxiety
B. Emotional Dependency
C. Trauma-Based Bonding
D. Intensity Seeking
C) Trauma-based Bonding
A partner alternates between affection and withdrawal, creating confusion and craving.
Red Flag