Demands
"Stop knocking on my door!"
"I feel frustrated when you keep knocking on my door. I need some space right now"
"You're so annoying"
“I feel overwhelmed when there’s a lot of noise. Can we talk more calmly?”
“I’m never talking to you again!”
“I’m really hurt. I need a break before we talk more.”
Nice job breaking it… again.”
“I feel upset it broke. Can we fix it together?”
“I don’t care.”
“I feel upset right now and need a moment to think.”
"Stop getting in my space!"
"I feel frustrated that you won't stop putting your feet on me. I need you to give me space."
"You're mean"
“That hurt my feelings. Can we be kinder to each other?”
“I hate you!”
“I’m really angry right now, but I still care about you.”
“Oh great, just what I needed—your help.”
“I’m feeling overwhelmed. Can you help in a different way?”
“Whatever.”
“I feel like I can't talk about this right now. Let’s talk about this later when we’re both calm.”
"Stop taking my things!"
"I feel frustrated when you take my things without asking. It makes me feel like my things aren't being respected. I need you to ask first."
"You're boring"
“I don’t feel like doing that right now. Can we do something else together?”
“It’s your fault we’re late!”
“I feel upset because I wanted to get there on time. Next time, can we help each other get ready faster?”
“Wow, you’re so helpful… not.”
“I feel I could really use your help right now.”
“Leave me alone now.”
“I need some space. Can we talk again soon?”
"Stop bothering me!"
"I feel angry when you keep teasing me. It hurts my feelings. I would like if you stopped."
“You’re such a crybaby.”
“It feel like you're upset. Want to talk about it?”
“I’m done with you!”
“Let’s take a break and come back to this later.”
“Thanks for nothing.”
“I feel upset because I was hoping for more support. Can we try again?”
“Nothing matters.”
“I’m feeling really down. I could use some support.”
"Stop yelling at me!"
"It makes me upset when you raise your voice at me. I need you us to talk with one another."
“You’re so dumb.”
“I feel like there’s a better way to do that. Want help figuring it out?”
“You never help with anything.”
“I'm feel frustrated because I feel like I am doing this by myself. It would mean a lot if we could share the chores.”
“Perfect timing, as always…”
“I'm frustrated you weren't on time. It would be great if we could plan better together.”
“It’s not even worth it.”
“This feels hard. Can we work through it together?”