What’s an I-Statement?
What are the 3 parts of an I-Statement?
I feel + when + because/what I need
Replace “mad” with another feeling word.
Frustrated / upset / annoyed (any valid answer)
Change “You never listen to me” into an I-Statement.
“I feel unheard when I’m interrupted because I want to share my thoughts.”
You’re always late!” → Fix it.
I feel worried when you’re late because I think something might have happened.”
Your friend forgets your birthday. Make an I-Statement.
UP TO YOU
True or False: I-Statements help prevent arguments.
True
True or False: “Fine” is a clear feeling word.
False
“You make me so mad!” → Fix it.
I feel angry when my things are taken without asking because I want respect.
You don’t care about me.” → Fix it.
I feel hurt when my messages aren’t answered because it feels like I don’t matter.
Your sibling keeps taking your charger. Make an I-Statement.
Why do I-Statements work better than You-Statements?
They reduce blame and make others less defensive
Make an I-Statement using “nervous.”
I feel nervous when I present in class because I don’t want to mess up.
OR WHATEVER YOU COME UP WITH
Why does “You” language usually cause arguments?
It sounds like blame or attack
“You ruined everything!” → Fix it.
I feel disappointed when plans change because I was really looking forward to it
Your teammate blames you for losing a game. Make an I-Statement.
UP TO YOU