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Your parents/guardian keep comparing you to someone else. They keep saying,
“why can’t you be more like him/her?”
I feel upset/sad/angry when you are comparing me to him/her because it makes me feel like I am not good enough. What I need is for you to value me for who I am.
Isaac feels like his parents/guardian always
tell him what to do, but never hear him out
when he's trying to voice his opinion.
I feel angry/upset/sad/frustrated when you don't hear what I have to say. It would be better if you listened to my opinion.
Your parent/guardian is not letting you play Fortnite or be on your phone.
I feel when angry/frustrated/mad when you don't let me play what I want to. It would be better if you talked to me about how I can earn phone privileges.
You feel like your teacher is always picking on you.
I feel angry/frustrated/sad when you choose me to answer all the questions. It would be better if you asked me if I was able to answer the question before choosing me.
You realized that a person you do not know keeps looking at you. You feel weird about it.
I feel upset/confused/nervous when you look at me. It would be better if you didn't look at me as much.
Your teacher always makes you go in front of the class when you don’t want to.
I feel scared/nervous/anxious when you tell me to stand in front of the class. It would be better if you gave me the option to speak from my seat.
During 3rd period, you want to use a pass. However, the teacher not letting you.
I feel angry/frustrated/upset when you don't let me use my pass. It would be better if you gave me a reason for not letting me go.
One of your friends really hates another student. That student wants to be friends with you. You have nothing against him/her. But, you are afraid that your friend will stop being friends
with you if she/he sees you talk to him/her.
I feel nervous/confused/unsure when you ask me to be friends because of how my other friends feels about you. It would be better if you let me talk to my other friend about how I'm feeling.
You usually like your fourth period. However, there is this one student who always gets on your nerves. You think he/she is very annoying.
I feel angry/mad/frustrated when you do things to annoy me such as (behaviors). It would be better if you respected how I feel and try not to do those things around me.
You hear your classmates make fun of a student.
I feel upset/sad when you make fun of them. It would be better if you kept your negative thoughts to yourself.
Kyle has been failing his classes. To be honest,
it’s because he has been talking to his
friends and has been distracted. But now,
Kyle's trying to raise his grades up again.
When he tries to, his friends are being really loud and talking to him
I feel angry/frustrated/mad when you talk very loudly during class. It would be better if you used a quieter voice or waited until after class to talk to me.
Mindy has to do a group project with other students. However, Mindy doesn't agree with the way the group is doing things.
I feel annoyed/angry/mad when you do the project your way. It would be better if you asked everyone how they would like to do this so that we can come to a compromise.
You have to do a big group project with your friends. However, you end up doing most of the work.
I feel angry/frustrated/tired when you leave all of the work for me to do. It would be better if you contributed to the project so that we all work equally.
You and you friend have made plans to hang out next weekend. An hour before you are supposed to meet, your friend decided to hang out with somebody else
I feel upset/sad/annoyed when you cancel our plans to spend time with someone else. It would be better if you respect the plans we made and make plans with others on a different date.
You are standing in line. A person cuts in front of you.
I feel angry/mad/disrespected when you cut in front of me. It would be better if you waited your turn in line.
Sarah decided to share her biggest secret with her friend. But, the friend told her secret to people she did not like.
I feel angry/sad/embarrassed when you tell my secret to someone else. It would be better if you asked me permission before sharing my secrets with others.
Mel's friend did not invite her to his/her birthday party. Mel feels really sad and very hurt.
I feel sad/hurt/upset when you didn't invite me to your birthday party. It would be better if you took time to explain to me why you are not inviting me.
Henry's teacher thinks he has been copying someone else’s work. He keep telling him that he was not, but he is not listening to Henry.
I feel angry/upset/mad when you assume that I was cheating. It would be better if you listened to what I say before making assumptions.
Greg's friend recently made a new friend. Greg tries to be nice to them, but other students now are telling his friend that he was being mean to them. Greg's friend is now mad at him.
I feel upset/frustrated/hurt when you get mad at me because of something you heard. It would be better if you asked me to explain what happened before believing what others said.
Jake's friends have been pressuring him to skip class.
I feel nervous/upset/scared when you pressure me to break the rules. It would be better if you didn't pressure me to break rules.
When Amy came home from school, her mom was upset because she thinks Amy broke her favorite vase without telling her about it. She automatically grounds her.
I feel upset/angry/sad when you ground me without listening to what I have to say. It would be better if you asked me if I broke it before punishing me.
A classmate has asked Fred to borrow a pen. Every time he lends them one, he doesn't get it back, so this time he says no. They get angry
and starts to yell at Fred.
I feel angry/frustrated/upset when you yell at me for say no to your request. It would be better if you respected my answer or remembered to return my pens.
A friend has been touching Tyler every now and then, but he feels very uncomfortable.
I feel uncomfortable/upset/uneasy when you touch me. It would be better if you asked permission before putting your hand on me.
Henry keeps hearing someone he doesn't like talking behind his back.
I feel angry/sad/upset when you talk about me behind my back. It would be better if you kept your negative opinions to yourself or came to me with problems you have.
Tara's friends made fun of a hobby that she likes.
I feel sad/upset when you make fun of things I like. It would be better if you kept your opinions to yourself.