Use
I-Messages
to voice
your thoughts
and Feelings
100

Your parents/guardian keep comparing you to someone else. They keep saying, “why can’t you be more like him/her?”

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the guardian*

100

You feel like your parents/guardian is always telling you what to do, but never hears you out when you’re trying to voice your opinion.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the guardian*

100

Your parent/guardian is not letting you play Fortnite or be on your phone.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the guardian*

100

You feel like your teacher is always picking on you.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the teacher*

100

You realized that a person you do not know keeps looking at you. You feel weird about it. 

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the person*

200

Your teacher always makes you go in front of the class when you don’t want to.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the teacher*

200

During science, you want to go to the bathroom. However, the teacher not letting you.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the teacher*

200

One of your friends really hates another student. That student wants to be friends with you. You have nothing against him/her. But, you are afraid that your friend will stop being friends with you if she/he sees you talk to him/her.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the friend*

200

You usually like your science class. However, there is this one student who always gets on your nerves. You think he/she is very annoying.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the student*

200

You hear your classmates make fun of a student because he is gay.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the student making fun of the other student*

*Double bonus for showing your support to the student being made fun of*

300

You’ve been failing your classes. To be honest, it’s because you have been talking to your friends and have been distracted. But now, you’re trying to raise your grades up again. When you try to, your friends are being really loud and won't stop talking to you. 

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the friends*

300

You have to do a group project with other students. However, you don’t agree with the way your group is doing things.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the other students in the group*

300

You have to do a the community project with a partner. However, you end up doing almost all of the work.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the partner*

300

You and your friend have made plans to hang out next weekend. An hour before you are supposed to meet, your friend decided to hang out with somebody else.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the friend*

300

You are standing in line. A person cuts in front of you. 

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the other person*

400

You decided to share your biggest secret with your friend. But, your friend told your secret to people you do not like.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the friend*

400

Your friend did not invite you to his/her birthday party. You feel really sad and very hurt.
                                                   

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the friend*

400

Your teacher thinks you have been copying someone else’s work. You keep telling him that you’re not, but he is not listening to you.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the teacher*

400

Your friend recently got a boyfriend/girlfriend. You try to be nice to them, but other students are now telling your friend that you are flirting with them. Your friend is now mad at you.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the friend*

400

Your friends have been pressuring you to skip class to meet in the bathroom. 

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the friends*

500

When you come home from school, your parent/guardian is upset because they think you broke their favorite decoration/artwork without telling them about it. They automatically ground you.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the mom*

500

A classmate has asked you to borrow a pen. Every time you lend her one, you don’t get it back, so this time you say no. She gets angry and starts to yell at you.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the classmate*

500

A friend has been hugging you every now and then. You like the friend and want to stay friends, but you feel very uncomfortable.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the friend*

500

You keep hearing someone you don't know that well talking behind your back. You don't know exactly what they're saying but you can tell it's about you. 

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the person*

500

Your friends made fun of something you like to do.

I feel _ when you are comparing me to someone else because _. I need _ to _ because _.

*Bonus for asking a clarifying question on the perspective of the friends*

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