"I" Statements
"I feel" must be followed by...
an emotion
Format an "I" Statement:
Your friend has not responded to your text messages over the three day weekend.
I feel worried when you don't respond to my texts for an extended period of time.
What do "I" Statements help take away from a situation?
Blame
When someone feels blamed for something, it is common to respond defensively
TRUE
YES or NO:
People should always know what you're feeling without you having to explain it
NO
Format an "I" Statement:
Your teacher accuses you of stealing something from her desk
I feel frustrated when you assume I stole something
Identify the Error:
I feel that you are talking rudely towards me.
I feel upset when you raise your voice when speaking to me
Using "I" Statements will solve all of your conflicts with people.
FALSE
Using "I" Statements can prevent defensiveness by...
taking responsibility for your own feelings
Format an "I" Statement:
Your guardian continually comes home late from work. You are worried about them.
I feel scared when I don't know if you're safe and/or when you'll come home.
Identify the Error:
You never do your chores! I always have to clean up after you!
I feel overwhelmed when I have to do the chores all by myself.
Step one of forming an "I" Statement is identifying what feelings you are having and why
TRUE
take ownership
How many emotions can you identify with an "I" Statement?
MULTIPLE!
Ex: sad, fear, mad, happy, excited, etc.
Identify the Error:
I feel angry because you came home late!
I feel worried when you don't show up at the agreed time.
TRUE
Why do "I" Statements allow us to do?
Express our views about an issue without direct blaming
Format an "I" Statement:
You are working on a group project, one member is not completing their portion. You have to finish their work in addition to yours.
I feel disappointed when you have me complete all of the work.
How do "I" Statements get you out of sticky siutations?
It allows you to express your feelings without taking it out on the other person
You should always have an emotion associated with your "I" Statement
TRUE