Communication
This type of sentence starts with “I feel,” “I need,” or “I think” and helps people express feelings without blaming others.
This part of the brain is like a smoke alarm that looks for danger and sounds the alarm.
What is the amygdala?
This model teaches that anger is the emotion on top, while feelings like hurt, fear, or sadness are underneath the surface.
What is the anger iceberg?
The goal of IHBT is to keep children safely at home instead of in this higher level of care.
What is residential treatment?
A problem that is small and can be fixed easily, like a broken pencil.
What is a small problem?
This skill means paying attention, not interrupting, and showing you understand by nodding, making eye contact, and summarizing what was said.
What is Active Listening?
This is what happens when your alarm brain turns on and your thinking brain goes quiet so you can focus on survival.
What is "going off line" or when the thinking brain shuts down?
This is something you can do to calm down, like taking deep breaths, counting to 10, or squeezing a stress ball.
What is a coping skill?
In IHBT, we teach families to remove these when someone is escalating to keep everyone safe.
What are weapons or dangerous weapons?
A problem that is annoying but not dangerous, like someone taking your seat.
What is a medium problem?
This technique repeats or paraphrases what someone said to show understanding and help calm big feelings.
What is reflection?
Fight, flight, freeze, or fawn are called this mode when your brain thinks you are in danger.
What is survival mode?
This anger skill means stopping and thinking before you act so you don’t get in trouble.
What is the pause, or stop and think?
When adults respond calmly and consistently to behaviors, this helps children feel this important feeling.
What is security and trust?
A problem that is dangerous and needs adult help right away, like someone getting hurt.
What is a big problem?
Crossed arms, eye contact, tone of voice, and posture are examples of this type of communication.
What is body language?
Slow breathing, a calm adult voice, and space are all examples of this, which helps your brain calm down.
What is safety?
This strategy means stepping away from a conflict to calm your body and brain before talking about the problem.
What is taking a time out?
In IHBT, reducing fighting, yelling, and dangerous behaviors helps families reach this goal.
What is safety and stability?
When your reaction is bigger than the problem, adults may say your reaction is ____ the problem.
What is "bigger than the problem"?
A statement including these parts: “I am sorry for ___, it was wrong because ___, next time I will ___, and how can I help you feel better?”
What is an apology?
When my brain alarm goes off, my heart might race, my breathing speeds up, my muscles feel tight, and I might feel shaky or sweaty. These are called this.
What are body warning signs?
This phrase means your thinking brain is disconnected, and you should wait to talk about the problem until your brain reconnects.
What is "flipping your lid" or emotional dysregulation?
A written plan that outlines triggers, warning signs, and steps to keep the family safe during crises.
What is a safety plan?
Helping caregivers respond calmly so reactions shrink to match the problem is called this IHBT strategy.
What is co-regulation?