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You have the answer to the question, but you’re tempted to shout it out before the teacher calls on you.
Stop: Pause before speaking.
Think: How would it feel if someone interrupted you while you were talking? What’s the best way to answer the question respectfully?
Choose: Wait for the teacher to call on you and raise your hand.
You accidentally spill water on the floor, and your friend is nearby. You want to blame them.
Stop: Take a moment to think about honesty.
Think: How would you feel if someone blamed you for something you didn’t do? What’s the honest thing to do?
Choose: Take responsibility for your actions and clean up the mess.
You worked with a group, but you’re tempted to say you did all the work.
Stop: Think about your teammates and the importance of honesty.
Think: How would your classmates feel if you took credit for their work? What’s the right thing to do?
Choose: Acknowledge everyone's efforts and give credit to the team.
Your friend is telling a story, and you feel like you just have to say something right now.
Stop: Take a deep breath and wait.
Think: How would I feel if someone cut me off while I was talking? Is what I want to say important now, or can I wait?
Choose: Let your friend finish their story, then share your thoughts.
You’re bored or upset and reach for a bag of chips or candy, even though you’re not really hungry.
Stop: Notice that you’re not hungry but still reaching for snacks.
Think: Why am I eating this? Am I hungry or just bored? Will I feel better if I eat this?
Choose: Drink water or do something fun to take your mind off snacks.
You see your friend’s snack sitting on their desk and feel really hungry.
Stop: Pause before reaching for the snack.
Think: How would you feel if someone ate your snack without asking? What’s the right thing to do?
Choose: Ask your friend if you can have some, or wait for your snack.
You’re having a conversation with your friend while the teacher is speaking.
Stop: Pause and focus on the teacher.
Think: How does talking during class affect your learning and the other students? What is the respectful thing to do?
Choose: Stop talking and listen carefully to the teacher.
Your teacher gives instructions, but you feel like doing something else.
Stop: Pause and listen carefully to the instructions.
Think: How do your actions affect the classroom? What’s the right way to follow instructions?
Choose: Follow the teacher’s instructions and ask if you don’t understand.
You’re upset with someone and want to send a mean message to them right away.
Stop: Think for a moment before you press send.
Think: Will this make things better or worse? Will I feel sorry later if I send this?
Choose: Wait until you feel calm, then send a message that explains how you feel without being mean.
You’re in the car, and there’s a lot of traffic. You feel frustrated and want to shout or complain.
Stop: Stop and notice how you’re feeling.
Think: Will yelling make the car go faster? What can I do to stay calm?
Choose: Listen to music, read a book, or play a game to pass the time while you wait.
You didn’t do your homework, and the teacher asks if you have it.
Stop: Think before you respond.
Think: How would you feel if someone lied to you? What’s the best way to handle this?
Choose: Tell the truth and explain what happened. Ask for help if you need it.
You see your friend’s pencil on the desk and feel like using it without asking.
Stop: Pause before touching your friend’s things.
Think: How would you feel if someone used your things without asking? What should you do instead?
Choose: Ask your friend if you can use it, or wait until you find your own.
Your friend asks for help with a project, but you don’t feel like helping.
Stop: Think about how you would feel if you needed help.
Think: How would your friend feel if you refused? What’s the right thing to do?
Choose: Offer to help or find another way to support them.
Your teacher or a friend tells you something you could do better, and you feel like getting upset.
Stop: Pause and breathe before you say anything.
Think: Is what they’re saying helpful? How can I get better at what I’m doing?
Choose: Listen to their advice and think about how you can improve.
Your friends or family keep asking you to help with things, and you’re starting to feel overwhelmed.
Stop: Take a moment to think before saying yes.
Think: Do I have time for everything? Can I help in another way? What do I need to do first?
Choose: Say no politely if you’re too busy or suggest a time when you
A classmate is wearing something you think is funny, and you want to make a joke about it.
Stop: Pause before making a comment.
Think: How would you feel if someone teased you? What impact will your words have?
Choose: Keep your thoughts to yourself or give your classmate a compliment.
You didn’t study for the test, and you see your classmate’s answers.
Stop: Take a deep breath and think about your choices.
Think: What will happen if you get caught? How does cheating affect your learning?
Choose: Do your best on your own or ask for help next time to prepare better.
You’re excited, and you’re shouting with your friends in the hallway.
Stop: Take a moment to lower your voice.
Think: How would shouting affect others in the hallway? What’s a better way to express your excitement?
Choose: Walk quietly and respect the people around you.
You meet someone new at school, and they don’t smile or talk much. You think they might be mean.
Stop: Take a moment to think before you decide.
Think: Do I really know this person? Maybe they’re shy or having a bad day.
Choose: Be kind and try talking to them before making a judgment.
Your friend invites you to a party, but you don’t feel like going. You don’t want to hurt their feelings, so you think about saying yes.
Stop: Think before you agree.
Think: Do I really want to go? Will I have fun or feel tired afterward?
Choose: Be honest and tell your friend you can’t go, but maybe you can hang out another time.
You really need to go to the bathroom but feel like leaving without asking the teacher.
Stop: Take a breath and think before acting.
Think: How does leaving without permission affect the class and your teacher? What’s the right thing to do?
Choose: Raise your hand and ask for permission to leave.
A classmate says something that bothers you, and you want to call them a name in return.
Stop: Pause before saying anything.
Think: How would you feel if someone called you a name? What’s the best way to respond?
Choose: Walk away, or talk to your classmate calmly about how you feel.
You’re at the store, and you see a toy or candy you want. You’re excited to buy it right away, even though it wasn’t on your list.
Stop: Pause before you grab it.
Think: Do I really need this? Do I have enough money? Will I still want it later?
Choose: Put it back or decide to save your money for something you really need.
You and your best friend start to argue over something silly, and you feel really upset.
Stop: Take a deep breath and stop arguing.
Think: Is this really something worth getting upset about? Will arguing help me keep my friend?
Choose: Calm down and talk about the problem without yelling.
You’ve been playing a game or scrolling through your phone for hours and don’t even realize it.
Stop: Notice how much time has passed.
Think: Am I spending too much time on my phone? Should I be doing something else, like reading or playing outside?
Choose: Put the phone down, and try something new, like playing a sport or reading a book.