School
Someone cuts you in the lunch line. What should you do?
Let it go, conflict resolution/talk to them
Mom says everyone can have 1 cookie after dinner. There are so many cookies that mom wouldn't notice if you took 2. What should you do?
Eat one cookie
Your friend yells at you. You want to yell but you take 3 deep breaths instead. What tool did you use?
Deep breath
You are walking out of soccer practice and you see $5 sitting on the bench. This could buy you an ice cream! What should you do?
Leave it, ask around, etc
What visual do we use for "Stop-Think-Act?"
stop light
You forgot you had a test today. You are sitting next to the smartest kid in class. You want to cheat. What should you do?
Stop-Think-Act, eyes on your own paper, try your best and study next time
You notice there are pizza leftovers in the fridge with your brother's name on them. You are SO hungry and just really want the pizza. What should you do?
Ask him first, eat something else, leave the pizza
You are at a friend's house and see he has a pack of your favorite gum. Knowing your friend, he probably won't even notice if you took one. What should you do?
Ask first, leave the gum
A teammate never passes the ball to you in the basketball game. You talk to them before the game about how you would like for them to pass you the ball sometimes. They apologize and thank you for telling them, because they didn't even notice. Is this good impulse control or bad impulse control?
Good
Name a tool you can use to control your impulses
Mindfulness (breathing, yoga, journal, reflection)
Distance (walking away)
Physical activity/exercise
Visual reminders
Problem solving
Identify what triggers you
Avoid situations that overwhelm you
The teacher says everyone gets one cupcake for a classmate's birthday. You are in the classroom by yourself and there is an extra cupcake sitting near your desk. What should you do?
Leave it there, ask if you can have it before taking it
Your sister took your favorite shirt. You want to scream at her. What do you do?
Conflict resolution, talk to her, let her borrow it and ask her to ask next time, take deep breaths and then talk to her, etc.
You are at the movies with your friend. She has been talking about how she has been saving to get a cherry ICEE. There is only enough mix for one cherry ICEE and you know that before filling up. What did you do that was impulsive?
filled up the ICEE
After your volleyball game, a parent brings snacks for the team. They put the snacks down, tell each player to take one and walk away. You are so hungry that you take two. what did you do that was "impulsive?"
took two snacks
True or false: Impulse control is the ability to stop yourself before behaving in a certain way.
True
The teacher asks a hard math question and you feel confident in your answer so you blurt it out. What did you do that was "impulsive?"
Blurt out the answer instead of raising your hand
Your brother says you can borrow his Lego set. You steal your favorite Lego figure form the set before you give it back. What did you do that was "impulsive?"
stole the Lego figure
A friend wants to play a prank on your mom while at your house. You love pranks but your mom is having a hard day. What should you do?
tell your friend no
You are picking teams for a scrimmage. Your coach said you are supposed to go first, but the other person picking goes first instead. The coach walked away. What do you do?
tell the other person it was your turn, let it go, use a tool, conflict resolution, etc
Impulsivity can be....
a) risky
b) aggressive
c) interruptive
d) all of the above
D) all of the above
A classmate throws a ball at you and so you kick it back at him and it hits him in the head. What should you have done instead?
Told him you didn't like it, walk away, take a deep breath, take a drink of water, play with another friend, etc.
Dad says you get 10 minutes to play iPad and then it is time to start homework. Dad is going to be helping your siblings get ready for bed. What tool could you use to know how long 10 minutes is?
Timer, clock, Alexa or similar
You are with your friends at the mall. Your friend steals a pair of earrings from H&M and does not pay for them. She says it doesn't even matter because they were a dollar and no one was looking. How would your friend's impulsive action make you feel?
Scared, unsafe, worried, etc
You are playing mini golf and hit it into the hole after 3 putts. No one was paying attention so you mark it as a hole in one because you are losing. What did you do that was "impulsive?"
mismarked your score card
What does impulsivity NOT lead to?
A) Hurting yourself or others
B) Consequences
C) Regret, sadness, anger, worry
D) Better relationships with friends and family
D) Better relationships with friends and family