Bullying
The three indicators that someone might be getting bullied.
What is Pattern, Power, Pain?
What should you do if your partner is consistently crossing boundaries you made?
Talk to him, and possibly break off the relationship.
Bob is upset that his friend cheated off his paper. He decides to confront his friend about this by insulting him, and calling him names.
This is ineffective communication
What are some traits of healthy relationships?
Mutual respect, compromising, joint decision making, feeling heard, and having trust in one another.
A friend of yours has been insulting you in front of her new friends. Normally she is super sweet but this hurts your feelings. What should you do?
You should go and talk to her privately in a calm manner about how this makes you feel, and why she is doing this.
Sally's little brother told her a secret the other day. After they got into an argument, Sally decided to tell all her friends her brother's secret. Her brother, Bill, is very hurt. Bullying or not?
Not bullying.
Why are boundaries important?
They help set expectations for how you are to be treated and help prioritize your well being.
Tom has just found out his mom died. He has a son, and decides to break the news to him slowly, in a private place, and using comforting language to soothe his son. After he tells his son, he asks how he is feeling and if there is anything he could do to help him through this difficult time. Is this effective or ineffective communication?
effective communication
You and your boyfriend got into a fight where you believe you were right. You haven't talked to each other for a couple of days. What should you do?
You should try to have a conversation with him and try to see his side. You don't have to agree with him, but try to respect his side.
Your roomate keeps forgetting to take out the trash. The trash has been piling up for weeks and the neighbors are starting to complain of the rotting smell coming from your house. What should you do?
You should first apologize to your neighbors for the smell, then have a one-on-one conversation with your roomate about the importance of resposibibly and what should happen in the future.
How can you help someone who is getting bullied?
You can confront the bully, or comfort the victim and report the situation to a teacher or responsible adult.
What consequences might occur if you don't set boundaries?
You could experience emotional burnout, be taken advantage of, made uncomfortable, or pushed over the edge by always complying.
Alexandra finds out her boyfriend has been talking to other girls. She solves this problem by yelling at him in public across the street and bringing up past arguments. Is this effective or ineffective?
Ineffective communication.
Your girlfriend takes you out on a date at McDonald's. You are vegan, and she knows that, yet she took you to a place with no vegan options. What should you do?
You should find a time later were you can talk to her about it, and explain that you felt upset that she ignored your needs.
You take a test. The test is very hard and you did not study. You find out on your copy of the test that the teacher accidentaly put all the answers on the paper. What should you?
You should turn in the paper to the teacher explaining the error, and ask for another that does not have the answers.
You are a sophomore, and have a friend who is a senior in one of your classes. You find out that he has been talking about you behind your back and has been doing this for weeks. Is this bullying?
Yes, because it has all three elements
You have told your friend that you don't feel comfortable with hugging. Your friend tells another one of her friends that you LOVE hugging, and so that friend ends up hugging you. Did the first friend cross your boundary?
Yes, even if they didn't directly hug you, they talked behind your back and lead another to crossing your boundary
Your aunt dies. You don't want to hurt your sister's feelings, so you don't tell her immediately. The funeral comes around, and your sister gets the invitation to the funeral. You apologize profusely and say that you did the right thing anyway you were only looking out for her well-being.
Ineffective because you should always tell your relatives if their family member dies.
You and your girlfriend have been dating for a couple of months. You knew she wasa germaphobe, but you didn't think it was that extreme until you tried to kiss her and she slapped you. Should you confront her?
You and your girlfriend should have a productive conversation in which you explain how you were hurt mentally and physically by her response. You two can work out a solution that allows both you and your partner to feel comfortable.
What would you do if your roomate was constantly annoying you and playing video games very loudly in the middle of the night.
Invest in a pair of sound reducing headphones and talk to your roomate about how they are disrupting your sleep patterns
You and your friend have been on each other's nerves lately because she is jealous of your popularity. She constantly makes fun of you and insults you, which hurts your feelings. Is this bullying?
This is not bullying because there is no power discrepancy
What happens if your partner has much more boundaries than you?
Thats not a problem, people can have different levels of comfort!
What is the Purpose of effective communication?
To be able to get your thoughts and feelings across clearly without doing it in a way that hurts the others feelings.
What are ways you can show your partner that you support them?
Be a good listener, encourage them to do new things, pay attention to little details, be understanding.
Your brother has been dealing with mental health issues, and has struggled with self harm. When you find out that he has fallen back into these harmful patterns, you enroll him into a pychriatic ward. He ends up finding out, and tells you if you care about him at all, you would respect his opinion and cancel the stay. What Should You Do?
When it comes to matters where there are chances that a loved one might be harmed, it is better you go against their wishes to keep them safe then possibly let them hurt themselves further.