Interpersonal Effectiveness
What is interpersonal effectiveness?
A: Getting other people to like you
B: Communicating openly and honestly
C: Our ability to interact with other people in a healthy way
D: Having a lot of friends
C: Our ability to interact with other people in a healthy way
DEAR MAN is used to
A: Maintain a good relationship
B: Get what you want
C: Maintain self-respect
D: Get to know someone
B: Get what you want
GIVE combines getting what you want with what?
A: Maintaining a good relationship
B: Being respectful
C: Maintaining self-respect
D: Being Mindful
A: Maintaining a good relationship
Fast combines getting what you want with what?
A: Maintaining a good relationship
B: Being respectful
C: Maintaining self-respect
D: Being Mindful
C: Maintaining self-respect
What is the dime game used for?
How strongly to ask or say no.
Which of these is an interpersonal effectiveness myth?
A: I should sacrifice my own needs for others
B: Saying no is selfish
C: I have to know whether the other person is going to say yes before I make a request
D: All of the above
D: All of the above
What does the D in DEAR MAN stand for?
A: Discuss
B: Develop
C: Digest
D: Describe
D: Describe
What does the I in GIVE stand for?
A: Intensity
B: Independence
C: Identify
D: Interested
D: Interested
What does the F in FAST stand for?
A: Friendship
B: Fair
C: Flex
D: Fight
B: Fair
What are the three goals of Interpersonal Effectiveness?
Getting what you want from another person, keeping and improving the relationship, and keeping or improving self-respect.
What is a goal of interpersonal effectiveness in DBT?
A: To get more friends
B: To learn specific skills that can improve communication
C: To change yourself into who other people want you to be
D: To learn how to read a room
B: To learn specific skills that can improve communication
What does the E in DEAR MAN stand for:
A: Engage
B: Elevate
C: Express
D: Entertain
C: Express
The V in GIVE stands for Validate. What is an example of validation?
A: Saying thank you
B: Telling someone that their feelings are understandable
C: Listening to someone
D: Giving someone a hug when they're upset
B: Telling someone that their feelings are understandable
What does the A in FAST stand for?
A: (no) Apologies
B: Ask nicely
C: Anticipate
D: (no) Anger
A: (no) Apologies
What does PLEASE stand for?
Treat Physical Illness
Balanced Eating
Avoid Mood Altering Substances
Maintain Good Sleep
Exercise
What can interpersonal effectiveness skills NOT help with?
A: Effectively lying to others
B: Resolving conflict
C: Asking for what you need
D: Saying no and sticking to it
A: Effectively lying to others
What does the first A in DEAR MAN stand for?
A: Ask
B: Assert
C: Allow
D: Alter
B: Assert
If you're asking staff for something but you're yelling at them, which GIVE skill are you NOT using?
A: Gentle
B: Involved
C: Validate
D: Easy manner
A: Gentle
What does the S in FAST stand for?
A: Stand up for yourself
B: Stay calm
C: Speak respectfully
A: Stick to your values
D: Stick to your values
What is the purpose of opposite action?
The purpose of opposite action is to do the opposite of what an action urge is telling you to do. For example, if you feel sad, your action urge might be to go sleep in a dark room. Opposite action would be blasting some music and having a dance party.
Name something that can get in the way of interpersonal effectiveness.
Emotions (difficulty communicating/knowing what you want)
Environment (location, timing, reactions of others)
Indecisivness
Lack of Skills
Plus a million other things!
DEAR is how you _______ and MAN helps with ________
A: get what you want; making your DEAR successful
B: ask for things; mindfulness
C: get what you want; reinforcing what you want
A: get what you want; making your DEAR successful
If you've gotten what you want AND kept your self respect, but you've really upset the person you were asking something of, what objective have you lost sight of?
A: Being kind
B: Emotion regulation
C: Maintaining a good relationship
D: Putting yourself in their shoes
C: Maintaining a good relationship
What does the T in FAST stand for?
A: Talk openly
B: Take care
C: Tell the truth
D: Try your best
C: Tell the truth
What does it mean to "ride the wave?"
Riding the wave is a term in DBT that refers to letting yourself feel your emotions, without trying to stop them from happening.