MINDFULNESS
Being aware of the present moment (thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations).
The acronym DEAR stands for
Describe the situation, Express emotions, Assert what you want, reinforce the other person
GIVE is used to do what
Maintain or Build a relationship
FAST skills are used to
Maintain Self-Respect
The T in THINK stands for what...
THINK about it from the other person's perspective
Wordless Watching. Just notice the experience in the present moment.
Observe
DEAR MAN is used to do this
Objectives-Get what you want or need
The G in GIVE stands for
Be Gentle
F and A in FAST stand for
Be Fair and No Apologies
Can you think of more than one possible_________ or explanation for the other's behavior?
Interpretation
Which mind is "hot", ruled by your feelings and urges?
In DEAR MAN, A and N in Man stand for
Appear, Confident, and Negotiate
The I in GIVE stands for
Act Interested
The S and T in FAST stand for
Stick to your values and be truthful
In the THINK skill, the H stands for what...What might he or she be feeling or thinking?
Have Empathy
Which mind is Ruled by thinking, facts, and logic?
Reasonable Mind
In DEAR MAN, what does the M stand for, and what two things are attached to it
Stay Mindful- Broken Record technique and Ignore Attacks
The V and E in GIVE stand for
Validation and use Easy Manner
Don't sell out to get what you want, to fit in, or to avoid saying "no".
Your Values
What is the goal of the THINK skill?
Make peace, reduce conflict, and reduce anger, THINK about it differently.
Notice but don't evaluate as good or bad. Stick to the observations of the facts of the situation, using only what is observed with your senses.
Don't Judge
Provide an example of a time when you used DEAR MAN successfully
Example
What is Validation?
Communicating to another person or yourself, that your feelings and thoughts makes sense and can be understood.
Give an example of a time when you had to use FAST skills
Example
_________how the other person may be struggling with his or her own stress or problems.
Notice