GIVE
What is the priority for the GIVE skill
Keeping/maintaining healthy and positive relationships
What is the priority of the DEAR MAN skill?
Asking for something you want or saying no to as request.
What is the priority of the FAST skill?
Maintaining self-respect.
What is the purpose of the THINK skill?
To help us THINK differently about the situation/person we are interacting with and help reduce negative thoughts, feelings, and actions.
What are the goals of interpersonal effectiveness skills?
To maintain/improve relationships and reduce/resolve conflict.
Name each component of the acronym GIVE
G- be Gentle
I- act Interested
V- Validate
E- use an Easy manner
Name each component of the acronym DEAR MAN
D- Describe
E- Express
A- Assert
R- Reinforce
M- be Mindful
A- Act confident
N- Negotiate
Name each component of the acronym FAST
F- be Fair
A- don't over or under apologize
S- Stick to values
T- be Truthful
Name each component of the acronym THINK
T- Think about the other persons perspective
H- Have empathy
I- Interpretations
N- Notice ways the other person has been trying
K- Kindness
Name at least two things that can interfere with interpersonal effectiveness skills?
Worry thoughts
Lack of skill
Emotions
Can't decide
Environment
Explain the meaning of validating self/others.
To convey understanding of thoughts, feelings, and/or actions.
DEARMAN is often used to ask for something or to say no to a request. What if we are not sure how to respond in an interaction?
Use DEARMAN to request need to think about your decision.
What are some of the benefits of the FAST skill?
Not exploiting self or others, feeling good about self, not selling out, feeling good about how you treat others.
When is it helpful to use the THINK skill?
When you are having trouble deciding if you want to make a request/say no or how intensly to make a request or say no.
How can you counter/neutralize a worry thought.
Wise mind statement
Describe practical ways you would demonstrate GIVE skill in an interaction with a parent.
Describe:
Making eye contact, nodding head, smiling, non threatening body language, be nice, nonjudgemental, listen, non threatening tone, etc.
Give an example of using DEAR MAN skill when asking parent to stay out later than curfew.
Demonstrate:
Describe, express, assert, reinforce, mindful, appear confident, negotiate.
Use FAST skill in the following scenario:
Your group of friends is leaving out a peer and you would like to ask them to include this friend.
Example:
Hey everyone, I've been noticing Sarah hasn't been included at our lunch table. I realize we have all been sitting together as a group for ahile now, however, I feel like it is important to include Sarah and welcome her into our lunch group. How do you all feel about that?
List alternative interpretations of the following: friend did not want to go out to watch a movie.
I.e.:
They were sick, they had other plans, they felt like being alone, their parents said no, they don't like that particular movie, they were feeling down, etc.
Give an example of a wise mind statement to the following worry thought, "my teacher will think I'm a bother if I ask for clarification on the homework".
Example: My teachers role is to help me understand the material.
Give an example of validating a friend in the following scenario:
"I'm so depressed- I went to sign up for my favorite dance class and it was full.
I.e.:
That sucks. I know you really enjoy that class.
What do you do when the person you are interacting with isn't being interpersonally effective.
Broken record technique
Mindfulness
Distress tolerance
Radical acceptance
Be interpersonally effective with someone else who can help you
Emotion regulation skills
Give an example of 2 of your top values.
I.e.: hard work, honesty, adventure, creativity, etc..
What is one way worry thoughts can be helpful?
They give us information about possible danger and/or they help us pause.
Name at least 2 factors to consider when asking for what you want or saying no to a request.
Priorities
Capability
Timeliness
Preparation
Relationship
Give and Take