GIVE Skill
What does GIVE stand for?
be gentle, be (act) interested, validate, and use an easy manner
What does DEAR MAN stand for?
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce
Mindful, Appear Confident, Negotiate
What does FAST stand for?
(be) fair, apologies, stick to values, (be) truthful
What skill does this question relate to?
What are my values? Act in a way that makes me feel positive about myself
FAST skill
What are the mindfulness How skills?
Don't judge, stay focused, do what works
Roleplay:
Use the GIVE skill on your partner. Talk about something you are extremally passionate about.
Role Play correctly
Roleplay:
Use the DEAR MAN skill to ask to go see a movie with your friends
Roleplay correctly.
Role Play:
Your best friend just asked you to help them cheat on the next upcoming math test.
Used the FAST skill correctly
What skill do these questions relate to?
How do I want the other person to feel about me?
GIVE skill
Daily Double !!!
What is radical acceptance?
accepting the things you can't change
Roleplay:
Use the GIVE skill to talk to your partner about your favorite subject in school.
Use GIVE skill correctly
Role Play:
Use the DEAR MAN skill to ask for an extension for your homework
Used DEAR MAN correctly.
Role Play:
Your friends are pushing you to dance so they can post a video of you online to everyone.
Correctly used FAST skill
Turn this negative thought into a wise mind statement:
If I ask for something, she'll think I'm stupid
I'm not stupid for asking for help, they are there to help me succeed.
What does the HALT skill stand for and when do you use it?
Ask myself if I am hungry, angry, lonely or tired. You use it when trying to see if we are adding to our distress.
Roleplay:
Use the GIVE skill on your partner. Talk about something that made you upset recently.
Use the GIVE skill correctly.
Role Play:
Use DEAR MAN to express why you can't do additional school classes.
Used DEAR MAN correctly
Role Play:
Your friend wants you to sneak out of your house to go to a crazy party.
Use the FAST skill correctly.
Turn this worry thought into a wise mind statement
Why bother asking? It won't make a difference anyway.
At least I can practice effectively asking for something
What is the opposite action for shame when it fits the facts
Face the music, apologize, try to avoid making future mistakes, forgive yourself and let go
Watch your partner use the GIVE skill and walk through everything they used in the skill.
Prompt: You are talking about your favorite game to play.
Watch your partner use DEAR MAN and walk through everything they used in the skill.
Prompt: You want to go a vacation to your favorite place.
Correctly identified how they used the skill.
Watch your partner use the FAST skill and walk through everything they used in the skill
Prompt: Your friend and you were playing baseball and broke a window. Your friend wants to run and lie saying you didn't do anything.
Correctly identified how they used the FAST skill
Turn this worry thought into a wise mind statement
If I say no they'll be really angry with me
Even if they get upset its okay because I am being true to myself and what I value.
What does ABC PLEASE stand for?
Accumulating positive experiences, built mastery, cope ahead
treat physical illness, balance eating, avoid mood altering drugs, balance sleep, and get excercise