DEAR MAN
Describe
It is what the G stands for in GIVE
Gentle
The F in the DBT skill FAST stands for ________
FAIR
As in BE FAIR to yourself and to others. No judging
The H in THINK stands for ______________
Have Empathy
In DBT ______ Mind is the balance of emotion mind and Reasonable mind and what we strive to use
WISE MIND
true or false: We use DEAR MAN when we want to ask for something or say no to something
True
True or false: When using the GIVE skill we want to act disinterested.
FALSE.
The I in GIVE stands for Interested as in Act Interested in what the other person is saying.
The T in the dbt skill FAST stands for _______
be TRUTHFUL
Dont Lie, exaggerate, make up excuses or act helpless when you are not.
True or false: you use a THINK skill when you want to reduce conflict, reduce anger or make peace
TRUE
true or false: Closed smiling and unwilling hands are techniques used to practice acceptance
False
HALF SMILING and WILLING HANDS are the skills
True or False: DEAR MAN teaches us to ineffectively communicate.
FALSE
We use DEAR MAN as a way to effectively communicate with others.
The E in GIVE stands for Easy manner. Would using humor be an example of using an easy manner?
YES! (True)
True or false: It is ok to act outside your values when using the GIVE skill.
FALSE:
The S in FAST stands for STICK TO YOUR VALUES and it is important to know what your values are and to strive to act in accordance with them.
The K in THINK stands for _____________
Two mindfulness skills we have learned are what and _______ skills
Two mindfulness skills we have learned are what and HOW skills
True or false: We want to reward the other person if they respond to us when using a DEAR MAN
TRUE!
The R in DEAR stands for REINFORCE the other person, for example with a smile, a nod, or a "thank you"
True or false: The GIVE skill helps us maintain healthy relationships.
TRUE!
GIVE is an interpersonal effectiveness skill
True or false: FAST is a distress tolerance skill
FALSE
FAST is an interpersonal effectiveness skill
The N in think stands for NOTICE. What are we trying to Notice about the other person when we use the THINK skill?
Notice how the other person has been trying to make things better, to help or show he/she cares. Or NOTICE how the other person may be struggling with her own stress or problems
in DBT it means "Intentionally living with awareness in the present moment without judgement and without attachment".
Mindfulness
It is what MAN stands for in DEAR MAN
Mindful
Appear Confident
Negotiate
YES! (true) When using the GIVE skill it is important to validate others even if you dont agree with them.
When using the FAST skill should you apologize when you ask for something?
NO! Though the A stands for Apologize, you should only apologize when you have truly wronged someone. Do not apologize for making a request, having an opinion or disagreeing.
What does the T stand for in the THINK skill?
T stands for THINK! As in THINK about it from the other person's perspective
true or false: One of the goals of emotion regulation is to increase emotional vulnerability
FALSE.
We strive to DECREASE emotional vulnerability and increase resilience and your ability to cope with difficult things