Relationships
If your friend asks you to play a game and you say “no,” how should they respond in a healthy relationship?
They should understand and respect your answer.
"I understand, maybe another time."
If you want to borrow a toy, what should you do first when using DEAR MAN?
Describe what you want
What does the “I” in GIVE stand for?
(act) Interested
What are boundaries?
Invisible lines that tell others what is okay and not okay
Which one is a sign of respect?
A) Listening to someone’s feelings
B) Asking someone to play a few times
C) Not telling someone the truth to avoid hurting their feelings
A) Listening to someone’s feelings
What does the “A” in DEAR MAN mean?
Ask (for what you want)
What does “V” in GIVE mean?
Validate
True or False: Saying “No” is a way to practice boundaries.
True (when appropriate)
If someone pressures you to do something you don’t want to do, that is…
A) Helping you get out of your comfort zone
B) Unhealthy
C) Weird
B) Unhealthy
The “R” in DEAR MAN means Reinforce. What does that look like?
A) Telling your friend “Thanks, I really appreciate it.”
B) Asking a few times when you want something
C) Giving someone space if they are mad at you
A) Telling your friend “Thanks, I really appreciate it.”
The “E” in GIVE means Easy manner. What does that look like?
A) Poking fun at the person to make things lighter
B) A) Using humor or smiling to keep things light when possible
C) Laughing to make someone do what you want
B) Using humor or smiling to keep things light when possible
Which of these is an example of respecting someone else’s boundary?
A) Borrowing their pencil and giving it back later
B) Listening when they say “no”
C) Asking if someone is okay after they have asked for space
B) Listening when they say “no”
Why are boundaries important in relationships?
A) They convince people to believe you
B) They let people say “no” or ask for space safely
C) They make friendships forever
B) They let people say “no” or ask for space safely
Why is it important to “Appear confident” when asking for something?
A) Because then you don't have to express how feelings
B) Because you can get what you want if you look confident
C)Because confidence helps others take you seriously
C)Because confidence helps others take you seriously
If a friend is upset and you want to use GIVE, what should you AVOID doing?
A) Saying, “I hear you, that sounds tough.”
B) Saying, “That’s silly.”
C) Nodding while they speak
B) Saying, “That’s silly.”
Which of these is an example of a material boundary?
A) “I need 10 minutes to finish my homework."
B) “I don’t want you to touch my backpack.”
C) “I don’t like it when you tease me.”
B) “I don’t want you to touch my backpack.”
Healthy relationships go both ways. What does that mean?
B) Both people need to be respectful, honest, and kind
If you ask for something using DEAR MAN and the answer is “no,” what is the healthy next step?
Respect their answer and maybe negotiate calmly
Which answer shows all parts of GIVE working together?
A) You talk loudly, negotiate a lot, and stay serious.
B) You talk kindly, listen carefully, say their feelings make sense, and smile.
C) You take charge, listen carefully, tell them what is the best option, and joke about it.
B) You talk kindly, listen carefully, say their feelings make sense, and smile.
“I can choose to stay calm even when I’m frustrated.”