DEARMAN
What is the purpose of DEAR MAN
Helps you to be assertive and get your wants/needs met in a way that protects the relationship.
What is the purpose of this skill?
Helps to create/maintain a healthy relationship.
What is the purpose of FAST?
Helps you maintain your self respect, an work towards a peaceful resolution.
What does this skill help with?
Helps you to make peace, avoid assumptions, reduce conflict and reduce anger.
what does RAVEN help with?
Helps you negotiate when conflict arises from the position that each of you have valid needs.
T or F: Describing a situation means exaggerating what happened to make your point stronger
False. Describe the facts without exaggerating or judgement
What is one major goal of using GIVE during a difficult conversation?
To communicate respectfully while maintaining the relationship.
FAST can be especially helpful when you need to communicate a boundary, disagreement, or request while staying true to your ____.
Values/Self-Respect
True or False: THINK requires you to agree with another person's point of view.
False
You're becoming frustrated during an argument. Before responding you take a deep breath and intentionally release some tension. Which RAVEN skill are you using?
Relax
Which DEAR MAN letter would this be.
"I feel frustrated and unimportant when I'm left waiting without an update."
Express.
Express your emotions about the situation. Use "I" statements.
Someone is upset with you. Instead of immediately becoming defensive, you listen to what they're saying and allow them to finish. What GIVE skill are you practicing?
Interested
You make a mistake and feel tempted to repeatedly say "I'm sorry! I'm sorry! I'm sorry!" even though you've already taken responsibility. Which FAST principle reminds you not to over apologize?
Apologies
Someone tells you they're upset about something that you did. You try to imagine what the situation might have felt like from their perspective, even though you experienced it differently. What THINK skill is being used?
Have empathy
You're deciding how to respond during a disagreement and ask yourself "What kind of person do i want to be in this relationship?" What skill are you using?
Examine your values.
Which DEAR MAN step focuses on sticking with the main point instead of getting distracted?
Mindful
How can you show Easy manner
Smiling, be lighthearted, use a light humor
Someone asks for your opinion and you give an honest answer while remaining respectful rather than saying what you think they want to hear. Which FAST skill is this?
Truthful
A friend seems irritated when talking to you. Instead of assuming they're angry at you, you consider that they may be having a difficult day. Which skill are you using from THINK?
Interpretations
What are some examples of negative habits we want to avoid when having a healthy conversation?
discounting, withdrawing/abandoning, threatening, balming, belittling, guilt-tripping, avoiding/withholding, shutting down/stonewalling
What does DEAR MAN stand for?
Describe the situation
Express your feelings
Assert yourself
Reinforce
Mindful
Appear confident
Negotiate
What does GIVE stand for?
be Gentle
act Interested
Validate
use an Easy manner
What does FAST stand for?
be Fair to yourself and the other person
no Apologies
Stick to values
be Truthful
What does THINK stand for?
Think about it from the other person's perspective
Have empathy
Interpretations
Notice ways the other person has been trying to help
use Kindness and be gentle
What does RAVEN stand for?
Relax
Avoid negative habits
Validate the other person's needs or concerns
Examine your values
Neutral voice