DBT
What is a dialectic?
What is...
When two seemingly opposing concepts are simultaneously true
What is the skill you use when the objective is the most important priority?
What is...
DEAR-MAN
What is the skill you use when the relationship is the most important priority?
What is...
GIVE
What is the skill you use when self-respect is the most important priority?
What is...
the FAST skill
What skill is implemented within the intensity skill?
What is...
DEAR-MAN
What is a tool you can use to decide if you want to use a skill or not?
What is...
Pros and cons
What is DEAR in the DEAR-MAN skill?
What is...
Describe, Explain, Assert and Reinforce
What is the GIVE skill?
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be Gentle, Act Interested, Validate, and Use an Easy manner
What is the FAST skill?
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Be fair
No Apologies
Stick to values
and Be truthful
What level of intensity would "ask and don't take no for an answer" be?
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10 intensity
What is WISE mind?
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The middle path between emotion mind and reason mind.
What is the most important component in the DEAR-MAN where you make your intentions clearly known by ASKING for what you want or SAYING NO clearly?
What is...
A- Assert
True or false:
Validation is offering a solution, fixing, or giving advice.
What is...
False
When you are being fair in the FAST skill, who are you being fair to?
What is...
Yourself and others
What level of intensity would "Ask confidently, take no" be?
What is...
6 intensity
What are the 6 ways you can validate?
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Pay attention/Stay awake
Reflect back/Accurate Reflection
Read minds/ Articulate messages that have not been verbalized
Understand/ Validation in terms of past learning or biological dysfunction
Acknowledge the valid/ Validate in terms of present context/ normative functioning
Show equality/Radical Genuineness
What is the MAN in the DEAR-MAN skill?
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Stay mindful, appear confident and negotiate
When is it effective to end a relationship?
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When the relationship is destructive and interfering
Can you apologize when using the FAST skill? Explain when it is effective and when it is not.
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Yes, when I have done something that causes harm or hurt to another person. It is not effective to apologize when I am simply being myself, having an opinion and/or having an ask.
What is mismatched intensity?
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When the level of intensity does not match the trigger or situation appropriately.
What is the goal of the interpersonal effectiveness module?
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To help individuals navigate relationships in a way that is both effective and self-respecting. Specifically,to learn how to ask for what they need, say no when necessary, and manage interpersonal conflict while maintaining relationships and preserving their own self-respect.
What are the ways you effectively use the "MAN" components?
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Stay Mindful- Ignore attacks, keep your focus on goals
Appear Confident- Eye contact, steady tone
and Negotiate- give to get and turn the tables
What are 4 ways to be gentle?
What is...
No attacks
No threats
No judging
No sneering
True or False....
It is okay to compromise my beliefs and values if it means gaining approval and improving a relationship when my priority is using the FAST skill.
What is...
False
What are the 10 questions to consider when determining the level of intensity you will ask something?
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Is the person able to give me what I want?
Is getting my objective more important than my relationship with the person?
Will asking help me feel competent and self-respected?
Is the person required by law or moral code to give me what I want?
Am I responsible for telling the person what to do?
Is what I want appropriate for this relationship?
Is asking important to the long term goal?
Do I give as much as I get with this person?
Do I know what I want and have the facts I need to support my request?
Is this a good time to ask?