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Effectiveness
Objectiveness
DEAR MAN
GIVE-FAST
RANDOM
100

You put your immediate urges first

What is forgetting long term goals for short term goals?

100
This is the definition of objectiveness.
What is getting what we want.
100
We use DEAR MAN skills when we...
Want to achieve our objective (ask for something or say no)
100
When you want to keep your self respect, you use these skills.
What are FAST skills.
100

Not having these can get in the way of interpersonal effectiveness

What are interpersonal skills

200

Acting in a way that the other person keeps liking and respecting you, balancing immediate goals with the good of the long term relationship, maintaining important relationships

What are goals of relationship effectiveness

200

obtaining your legitimate rights, getting someone to do something you want, resolving an interpersonal conflict

What are goals of objective effectiveness

200
The first step in DEAR MAN is...
Describe the situation.
200
What does the I in GIVE stand for (give an example)
Act Interested (maintain eye contact, don't let your thoughts wander, etc.)
200
When I express how I feel about something before I ask for it, I'm using a skill from...
What is DEAR MAN
300

Saying no to a request is always selfish

What is a myth that gets ion the way of interpersonal effectiveness?

300

You use interpersonal effectiveness for these two things.

Asking for something or saying no to something.

300
What's an example of Reinforcing your request?
Ex: "I'll be happy" or "You'll really help me out" or "I'll really appreciate it"
300

If you're asking a friend for something and you're yelling at them, you're not using this GIVE skill.

What is be gentle.

300
What are TWO THINGS that impact the level of asking or saying no to something.
Ex: priorities, the relationship, self respect, capability, timelessness, homework, authority, rights, long vs. short term goals, and respect.
400
True or false: we can always get what we want, somehow.
What is FALSE
400

What's a way to get rid of interpersonal effectiveness myth (remember, a myth is something like "if I don't _____, people will think I'm _____)

What is talk yourself out of the myth or just do it/experiment.

400
The "M" in MAN stands for this (please explain)
What is Mindfully
400
If you've gotten what you want AND kept your self respect, but you've really upset the person you were asking something of, what objective have you lost sight of?
What is relationship effectiveness.
400
When you tell someone that you understand their feelings, wants, difficulties and opinions about the situation, you're using this GIVE skill
What is Validate
500

capabilities, priorities, self respect, moral and legal rights, authority, type of relationship,  goals, give and take, if you have done your homework to prepare and the timing of your request or refusal

What are factors to consider when deciding how firm or intense you want to be in asking for something or saying no

500

obtaining your goal vs keeping a relationship vs maintaining self respect are 

what are priorities 

500
Name all the DEAR MAN skills!
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce Mindfully, Appear Confident, Negotiate
500
NAME ALL THE GIVE FAST SKILLS
(be) Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, (use an) Easy manner (be) Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to Values, (be) truthful
500
Lying is one thing to avoid when you're using the Truthful skill in FAST, what's the other thing you want to avoid?
What is acting helpless when you're not.