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Effectiveness
Objectiveness
DEAR MAN
GIVE-FAST
RANDOM
100
This is the definition of effectiveness.
Getting what we want while keeping our relationships and our self-respect.
100

This is the definition of objective effectiveness.

What is getting what you want out of a situation.

100
We use DEAR MAN skills when we...
Want to achieve our objective (ask for something or say no)
100
When you want to keep your self respect, you use these skills.
What are FAST skills.
100
This is an example of a cheer leading statement I use!
ex: "i can do this!"
200
You use interpersonal effectiveness for these two things.
Asking for something or saying no to something.
200
"What will my friend's think?" or "I'd probably screw it up anyway" are examples of these things that get in the way of objective effectiveness
What are worry thoughts.
200
The first step in DEAR MAN is...
Describe the situation.
200
What does the I in GIVE stand for (give an example)
Act Interested (maintain eye contact, don't let your thoughts wander, etc.)
200
When I express how I feel about something before I ask for it, I'm using a skill from...
What is DEAR MAN
300

A want is something you do because you feel like it, and a should is something you do because...

What is: You ought to do it.

300
True or false: we can always get what we want, somehow.
What is FALSE
300
What's an example of Reinforcing your request?
Ex: "I'll be happy" or "You'll really help me out" or "I'll really appreciate it"
300
If you're asking staff for something and you're yelling at them, you're not using this GIVE skill.
What is be gentle.
300
What are TWO THINGS that impact the level of asking or saying no to something.
Ex: priorities, the relationship, self respect, capability, timelessness, homework, authority, rights, long vs. short term goals, and respect.
400
When someone is asking too much of you, this balance is off.
What is priorities vs. demands.
400
What's a way to get rid of interpersonal effectiveness myth (remember, a myth is something like "if I don't _____, people will think I'm _____)
What is talk yourself out of the myth or just do it/experiment.
400

The "M" in MAN stands for this (please explain)

What is 'Mindful:' Don't forget the objective of the interaction. It can be easy to get sidetracked into harmful arguments and lose focus.

400
If you've gotten what you want AND kept your self respect, but you've really upset the person you were asking something of, what objective have you lost sight of?
What is relationship effectiveness.
400
When you tell someone that you understand their feelings, wants, difficulties and opinions about the situation, you're using this GIVE skill
What is Validate
500
If you don't have balance in your priorities vs. demands or your wants vs. shoulds, this happens
What is you get overwhelmed and "blow up".
500
Katie THINKING ABOUT slamming a rude person's head into the desk is an example of this.
What is devil's advocate.
500
Name all the DEAR MAN skills!
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce Mindfully, Appear Confident, Negotiate
500
NAME ALL THE GIVE FAST SKILLS
(be) Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, (use an) Easy manner (be) Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to Values, (be) truthful
500
Lying is one thing to avoid when you're using the Truthful skill in FAST, what's the other thing you want to avoid?
What is acting helpless when you're not.