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DBT
FAST
DEAR MAN
GIVE
RANDOM
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This is the definition of effectiveness.
Getting what we want while keeping our relationships and our self-respect.
100

FAST is used when what is the main priority?

self respect

100
We use DEAR MAN skills when we...
Want to achieve our objective (ask for something or say no)
100

What is the main priority when using GIVE skills?

the relationship

100

This is what it means to be dialectical. 

What is two things that seem opposite yet both can be true and valid?

200
You use interpersonal effectiveness for these two things.
Asking for something or saying no to something.
200

The S in FAST stands for

Sticking to our values

200
The first step in DEAR MAN is...
Describe the situation.
200
What does the I in GIVE stand for (give an example)
Act Interested (maintain eye contact, don't let your thoughts wander, etc.)
200
When I express how I feel about something before I ask for it, I'm using a skill from...
What is DEAR MAN
300

true or false: DBT is a type of cognitive behavioral therapy

true!

300
True or false: we can always get what we want, somehow.
What is FALSE
300
What's an example of Reinforcing your request?
Ex: "I'll be happy" or "You'll really help me out" or "I'll really appreciate it"
300
If you're asking staff for something and you're yelling at them, you're not using this GIVE skill.
What is be gentle.
300
What are TWO THINGS that impact the level of asking or saying no to something.
Ex: priorities, the relationship, self respect, capability, timelessness, homework, authority, rights, long vs. short term goals, and respect.
400

What are the three potential goals in interpersonal situations?

objective effectiveness, relationship effectiveness, and/or self respect effectiveness

400

The A in FAST is for no Apologies. What would be an example of over apologizing?

apologizing for having an opinion, for making a request, for disagreeing, for being alive, etc

400

What the A stands for in MAN.

What is appear confident?

400

Name 2 examples of how we use the G of the the GIVE skill

1. no attacks 2. no threats 3. no judging 4. no disrespect

400
What is one took/skill we can use to determine the intensity needed to ask for something or say no to something?

The dime game!

500

when the main goal of an interaction is self-respect, what can you ask yourself?

how do i want to feel about myself after this interaction is over?

500

true or false: honesty is always the best policy

false; at times, complete honesty may reduce relationship effectiveness. a main point is if one needs to use a white lie, do so mindfully, rather than habitually

500

What are two techniques to use when staying Mindful?

the broken record and ignoring attacks/diversions

500

Define and give an example of what the V in GIVE means

Validate: communicating that the other person's feelings, thoughts, and actions are understandable to you, given that person's past or current situation

Validating it makes sense to feel frustrated when you dont get what you want and feel like you have to express it by lashing out otherwise you feel like youll combust

500

The most important thing i have taken away from DBT group.

must be descriptive and specific!