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Effectiveness
Objectiveness
DEAR MAN
GIVE-FAST
RANDOM
100

You put your immediate urges first

What is forgetting long term goals for short term goals?

100
This is the definition of objectiveness.
What is getting what we want.
100
We use DEAR MAN skills when we...
Want to achieve our objective (ask for something or say no)
100
When you want to keep your self respect, you use these skills.
What are FAST skills.
100

Putting words on the experience without interpretation or judgement

what is the describe skill

200

Acting in a way that the other person keeps liking and respecting you, balancing immediate goals with the good of the long term relationship, maintaining important relationships

What are goals of relationship effectiveness

200

obtaining your legitimate rights, getting someone to do something you want, resolving an interpersonal conflict

What are goals of objective effectiveness

200
The first step in DEAR MAN is...
Describe the situation.
200
What does the I in GIVE stand for (give an example)
Act Interested (maintain eye contact, don't let your thoughts wander, etc.)
200

When I express how I feel about something before I ask for it, I'm using a skill from...

What is DEAR MAN

300

Saying no to a request is always selfish

What is a myth that gets in the way of interpersonal effectiveness?

300

You use interpersonal effectiveness for these two things.

Asking for something or saying no to something.

300
What's an example of Reinforcing your request?
Ex: "I'll be happy" or "You'll really help me out" or "I'll really appreciate it"
300

If you're asking a friend for something and you're yelling at them, you're not using this GIVE skill.

What is be gentle.

300

the three states of mind in DBT

What are emotion mind, reasonable mind and wise mind

400
True or false: we can always get what we want, somehow.
What is FALSE
400

How to get rid of an interpersonal effectiveness myth

What is talk yourself out of the myth or just do it/experiment.

400
The "M" in MAN stands for this (please explain)
What is Mindfully
400

If you've gotten what you want AND kept your self respect, but you've really upset the person you were asking something of, what objective have you lost sight of?

What is relationship effectiveness.

(GIVE skill)

400

Noticing body sensations, paying attention on purpose to the present moment

 What is the observe skill?

500

capabilities, priorities, self respect, moral and legal rights, authority, type of relationship,  goals, give and take, if you have done your homework to prepare and the timing of your request or refusal

What are factors to consider when deciding how firm or intense you want to be in asking for something or saying no

500

obtaining your goal vs keeping a relationship vs maintaining self respect are 

what are priorities 

500

Name all the DEAR MAN skills!

Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce Mindfully, Appear Confident, Negotiate

500

NAME ALL  of THE GIVE skills

(be) Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, (use an) Easy manner

500

Throwing yourself completely into activities of the current moment

What is participate?