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DEAR MAN
GIVE
FAST
RANDOM
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We use DEAR MAN skills when we...

Want to achieve our objective (ask for something or say no)

100

When would we want to use the GIVE skill?

What is when we want to build and maintain positive relationships

100
When you want to keep your self respect, you use these skills.
What are FAST skills.
100
This is an example of a cheer leading statement I use!
ex: "i can do this!"
200
The first step in DEAR MAN is...
Describe the situation.
200

What does the I in GIVE stand for?

Act Interested (maintain eye contact, don't let your thoughts wander, etc.)

200

What does the S in FAST stand for?

What is Stick to values

200
When I express how I feel about something before I ask for it, I'm using a skill from...
What is DEAR MAN
300
What's an example of Reinforcing your request?
Ex: "I'll be happy" or "You'll really help me out" or "I'll really appreciate it"
300

If you're asking a parent for something and you're yelling at them, you're not using this GIVE skill.

What is be gentle.

300

Worry thoughts can get in the way of using the FAST Skill. Change this worry thought into a wise mind statement. "If I say “no,” they’ll be really angry at me."

What is “If I say ‘no’ to people and they get angry, it doesn’t mean I should have said ‘yes.’

"If I say no, I'll uphold my values and can validate their displeasure." 

300
What are TWO THINGS that impact the level of asking or saying no to something.
Ex: priorities, the relationship, self respect, capability, timelessness, homework, authority, rights, long vs. short term goals, and respect.
400
The "M" in MAN stands for this (please explain)
What is Mindfully
400

When using the GIVE Skill, it is important to use validation. Give an example of a validating statement.  

What is "It makes sense that you felt angry.", "I totally get why you were disappointed.", "That's really hard."

400

If you've gotten what you want AND kept your self respect, but you've really upset the person you were asking something of, what objective have you lost sight of?

What is relationship effectiveness.

400
When you tell someone that you understand their feelings, wants, difficulties and opinions about the situation, you're using this GIVE skill
What is Validate
500
Name all the DEAR MAN skills!
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce Mindfully, Appear Confident, Negotiate
500

NAME ALL THE GIVE SKILLS

(be) Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, (use an) Easy manner

500

NAME ALL THE FAST SKILLS

(be) Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to Values, (be) truthful

500
Lying is one thing to avoid when you're using the Truthful skill in FAST, what's the other thing you want to avoid?
What is acting helpless when you're not.