R-A-V-E-N
What is Interpersonal Effectiveness.
We use DEAR MAN skills when we...
Want to achieve our objective (ask for something or say no)
True or False- "I feel...." must be followed with an emotion word, such as "angry", "hurt", or "worried.
What is TRUE.
Do you have an example of an "I" statement?
Easily frustrated, speaks in a loud or overbearing way, unwilling to compromise, disrespectful toward others- these are examples of ____________ communication.
What is AGGRESSIVE communication.
True or False: The mnemonic device RAVEN allows you to successfully navigate negotiations with other people.
TRUE- when we experience conflict with others, we must remember that there are two people involved who each have valid needs.
"What will my friend's think?" or "I'd probably screw it up anyway" are examples of ___________.
hint: these "thoughts" get in the way of objective effectiveness.
What are worry thoughts.
The first step in DEAR MAN is...
Describe the situation.
"You never talk to me. I guess we just won't talk anymore."
True or False- This is an example of an "I" statement.
What is FALSE.
What is this statement an example of?
When I express how I feel about something before I ask for it, I'm using a skill from...
What is DEAR MAN
When using RAVEN, it is important to actively _________ the other person`s needs or concerns, no matter how tempted you might be to get defensive or attack.
True or false: we can always get what we want, somehow.
What is FALSE
What's an example of Reinforcing your request?
Ex: "I'll be happy" or "You'll really help me out" or "I'll really appreciate it"
Provide an example of an "I" statement you can use when addressing your concern with your peer.
What is...........
Scenario: You have your car at the program. Your friend asks to you drive them to the mall. You are aware of the program guidelines which state that you are not permitted to drive co-residents.
Please provide an example of ASSERTIVE communication.
When arguing with others, you are aware that you typically `hit below the belt`. This has not worked for you in the past, so you decide to utilise the A in RAVEN. The A stands for:
What is Avoid the aversive- if you typically hit below the belt during arguments or shut down what the other person is saying, admit this honestly to yourself and choose to avoid these behaviors in the present moment.
There are many skills related to communication and interaction with others. DBT focuses upon two main components.
hint- think of the goals of DEARMAN.
What is: 1) the ability to ask for things you want or need 2) the ability to say no to requests, when appropriate.
The "M" in MAN stands for this (please explain)
What is Mindfully
When using "I" statements, careful wording won't help if your voiced still sounds blaming.
TRUE or FALSE?
What is True.
Be mindful to use a soft and even tone.
When you tell someone that you understand their feelings, wants, difficulties and opinions about the situation, you're using this GIVE skill
What is Validate
What is EXAMINE YOUR VALUES.
There are three main goals to interaction. Please name one.
What is: 1. Gaining our objective 2. Maintaining our relationships 3. Keeping our self-respect.
Name all the DEAR MAN skills!
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Appear Confident, Negotiate
Scenario: Your friend continuously asks you to borrow cigarettes. You only have one pack left, which needs to last you a week. Your friend approaches you and requests another cigarette. Please provide an example of a "blaming" statement and an "I" statement.
What is........
Which statement is more effective in describing how the other person's actions affect you?
Scenario: Your friend has asked to borrow $10. You only have $10 left for the week and you need to purchase a recreation pass which you have been looking forward to. You give your friend the $10 while stating "Here you go, no problem. I will get my recreation pass next week". What type of communication style is this?
What is PASSIVE.
Bonus- can you provide an example of assertive communication for this scenario.