DEAR MAN
Explain the situation with facts.
Remove judgments & opinions.
What is Describe?
Be honest and willing to accept responsibility when needed. Do not lie, exaggerate, or act helpless.
What is Truth and Accountability?
Being authentic and real.
Not being fake.
What is Genuine?
Limits we set with others or a situation to keep us safe.
What are Boundaries?
Using "I feel" statements fosters empathy & understanding.
What is Express?
Avoid saying "Sorry" over and over.
What is Apologies (not needed)?
**Daily Double**
When are apologies needed?
Be kind and respectful. Be approachable. Use an effective volume and tone.
Avoid attacking, name calling, and threatening body language.
What is Easy manner?
List 2 of your group's values.
Kindness, awareness, respect, timeliness, privacy, acceptance, and order.
Asking for what you want or need; or by directly saying "No."
What is Assert?
To act in a way that supports what is important to you.
*HINT* They are your guiding principals in life. They anchor you.
What is Stick to your Values?
This skill set focuses on making, keeping, improving, and repairing the relationships you have with others.
What is GIVE?
This type of Boundary sets limits with your body, space, and property.
What is a Physical Boundary?
Let the person know how granting your request will help them too.
What is Reinforce or Reward?
To treat all equally and with kindness.
To hold all, including yourself, to the same standard.
What is (being) Fair?
To actively listen and show someone that you care about what they say/ or who they are.
What is (being) Interested?
To speak with a demanding, loud tone.
Getting in someone's face.
To intimidate.
"It's my way...or the highway..."
What is an Aggressive Communication Style?
True or False:
DEARMAN guarantees that you will get what you want or need.
False.
DEARMAN increases the odds that you'll get what you're looking for.
This skill set focuses on the relationship you have with yourself. It builds self-esteem too.
What is FAST?
To acknowledge and communicate an understanding of someone's feelings or experience.
What is Validation?
This type of Boundary separates your experience from others.
For example, not taking on another person's distress.
What is an Emotional Boundary?