Interpersonal Effectiveness Review

DBT #1

100

What are the three major skills we learn in this module?

1.  GIVE

2. DEAR MAN

3. FAST

200

What is the GIVE skill?

Approaching someone in an easy manner, being gentle, interesting and validating to their thoughts and emotions. 

300

What does a closed group look like?

• Everyone stands very close together
• Members are absorbed in each other
• The conversation is animated with few gaps
• Members may pair off

400

What skill would you use, when getting someone to do what you want?

DEAR MAN

500

What skill would you be using, if you were trying to maintain your self respect?

FAST SKILLS

DBT #2

100

What does the D in DEAR MAN represent?

Describe

Describe the situation. Stick to the facts.

200

What does the E in DEAR MAN represent?

Express

Express your feelings by using "I" statements.

300

What does the 1st A in DEAR MAN represent?

Assert

400

What does the R in DEAR MAN represent?

Reinforce.

Reward, or reinforce the person ahead of time by explaining the positive effects of getting what you want.

500

What does the M in DEAR MAN represent?

Mindful

Keep your focus on what you want, avoiding distractions.

DBT#3

100

What does the 2nd A in DEAR MAN represent?

Appear Confident.

Make and maintain eye contact. Use a confident voice, do not whisper, mumble, or give up and say "whatever."

200

What does the N in DEAR MAN represent?

Negotiate

Be willing to give, to get. Offer alternative solutions to the problem. 

300

What does the F in the FAST skill represent?

Fair

Be fair to yourself and the other person.

400

What does the A in the FAST skill represent?

Apologies

Do not over apologize for your behavior, for making a request or for being you.

500

What does the S in the FAST skill represent?

Stick to Values

Stick to your own values, and opinions.

Do not "sell out" to what what you want, to fit in, or to avoid saying no.

DBT#4

100

What does the G in the GIVE Skill represent?

Gentle

200

What does the I in the GIVE Skill represent?

Interested

300

What does the V in the GIVE Skill represent?

Validate.

400

What does the E in the GIVE skill represent.

Easy Manner

500

You would use the GIVE Skill, in what situation?

Building and maintaining positive relationships. 

DBT#5

100

What does the T in the FAST skill represent?

Truthful

Don't lie

Don't act helpless when you are not

Don't make up excuses or exaggerate

200

What type of Mind combines both emotions and reason?

Wise Mind

300

What are some ways to identify if a group is "open" for new members?

• Members stand somewhat apart from each other 
• Members sometimes glance around the room
• There are gaps in the conversation

400

What does the "D" in DBT Group stand for? 

Dialectical

500

This woman created DBT to help treat clients with Borderline Personality Disorder. 

Marsha Linehan