Mindfulness
When doing this WHAT skill, you throw yourself and your attention completely into the activities of the current moment.
What is Participate?
When using this skill you reward the other person ahead of time by explaining the positive effects for them of you getting what you want/need. Expressing appreciation is a go to for this skill.
What is Reinforce?
When using this skill, you show you understand the other person's point of view about the situation and that their point of view makes sense given their experiences.
What is Validation?
When using this skill you are equitable to yourself and the other person and validate your own feelings and wishes as well as the other person's.
What is (be) Fair?
When you are in this State of Mind you are ruled by your moods, feelings, and urges to do or say things. Facts, reason, and logic are not important.
What is Emotion Mind?
DEAR MAN is an acronym meaning what?
What is: Describe; Express; Assert; Reinforce. Mindful; Appear Confident; Negotiate.
This skill means four things: no attacks, no threats, no judging, and no disrespect.
What is (be) Gentle?
When you are in this State of Mind you are ruled by facts, reason, logic, and pragmatics. Values and emotions are dismissed as unimportant.
What is logic/reasonable mind?
When using this skill you tell the other person exactly what about the current situation you are reacting in order to ensure you and they are on the same page about the facts of the situation.
What is Describe?
FAST is an acronym meaning what?
What is Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to Values, and Truthful
When you are in this State of Mind you are identifying and using skillful actions for obtaining valued ends by being seeing the important of both reason and emotion.
What is Wise Mind?
This skill involves being willing to give to get and/or trying to solve the problem a different way.
What is Negotiate?
This skill is what you do if you want the other person to be more likely to respond well to you and to have a positive experience interacting with you (even if you don't get what you want).
What is (act) Interested?
Doing this can imply you are wrong in your request or in saying no (when you're not).
What is overapologizing?
When using this HOW skill, you are mindful of your goals in the situation, focused on what works, and are willing to act as skillfully as you can.
What is effectively?
When using this skill you tell the other person your feelings and opinions about the situation and don't assume they know how you feel.
What is Express?
GIVE is an acronym meaning what?
What is Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, Easy Manner.
This skill involves not selling out your views and opinions to get approval or liking although you may choose to adapt your views and opinions for VERY important reasons.
What is Stick to Values?