DEAR MAN Basics
What does the "D" in DEAR MAN stand for?
Describe
What does the "G" in GIVE stand for?
Gentle
What does the "F" in FAST stand for?
Fair
What does it mean to "nurture important relationships in DBT?
Spend time, show interest, and make efforts to connect regularly.
"I calmly ask my teacher for help and express how overwhelmed I feel."
DEAR MAN
In DEAR MAN, what does the "E" mean?
Express (your feelings and opions)
What does "I" stand for in GIVE?
Interested
Why is "No Apologies" part of FAST?
To remind you not to over-apologize for having needs.
True or False: DBT encourages staying in all relationships, even unhealthy ones.
False.
"I validate my friend's feelings even though I disagree."
GIVE
True or False: "R" stands for "Respond assertively."
False.
How does "Validate" help a friendship?
Shows you care about their feelings; builds trust.
Explain what "stick to your values" means in the FAST Skill.
It means not giving in just to be liked or to avoid conflict.
What is a small way to repair a damaged relationship?
Offer an apology, write a note, or ask to talk.
"I stick to my decision even when others are pressuring me."
FAST
Name all 7 parts of the DEAR MAN skill.
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident, and Negotiate.
You're upset with a friend. How would you be "Gentle" in your approach?
Use open-ended responses or role-play
What do all 4 parts of FAST stand for?
Fair, Apologies, Stick to values, and Truthful
Name on sign that a relationship may not be effective or healthy.
It consistently harms your self-respect, safety, or values.
"I appear confident and keep eye contact when asking for what I need."
DEAR MAN
You want to ask your teacher for an extension. Use DEAR MAN to do it.
Use open-end response or role-play
Describe a time you showed "Easy Manner" when talking to someone upset.
Use open-ended responses or role-play
Create a FAST response to: "Let me copy your homework or I'll be mad."
Use open-ended responses or role-play.
What are two strategies to end or limit contact with someone respectfully?
Use DEAR MAN to set a boundary or assert a break without blame.
"I use humor and kindness when disagreeing with a friend."
GIVE