GIVE Skills
What does "G" in GIVE stand for?
Gentle
What does the F is FAST stand for?
Fair
Your friend is busy and forgets your birthday. What GIVE skill could help you express your feelings?
Validation ("I get that you've been busy, but I feel hurt that you forgot")
What does DEAR MAN stand for?
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate
True or False: It is easier to use DBT skills when you're calm.
True
Give an example of showing interest in a conversation.
Making eye contact, active listening, asking open-ended questions.
What does "stick to values" mean in the FAST skill?
Acting in a way that reflects your morals/beliefs
Your boss asks you to work late, but you have plans. Which FAST or DEAR MAN skill helps here? (400 points for both)
FAST- Stick to values ("I can't stay tonight, but I'll come early tomorrow).
DEAR MAN- Assert or Negotiate.
What is the purpose of DEAR MAN?
To help you
1) Ask for what you want
2) Say no effectively
What skill helps you stand up for yourself while being fair?
FAST
What does it mean to be validating?
Acknowledging another person's feelings without judgment
Why shouldn't you over-apologize?
It can reduce self-respect or suggest guilt when not needed. Can weaken confidence
Someone blames you unfairly. What FAST skill helps protect your self-respect?
Truthful
What does "reinforce" mean in DEAR MAN?
Show benefits of your request/cooperation. Helps someone understand why they should grant your request.
(e.g., "I'll be more focused if we are able to meet tomorrow instead")
How can strong emotions impact communication?
React impulsively/defensively
Shut down
What's one way to use an easy manner when someone is upset with you?
Light humor, relaxed tone, friendly attitude
What does "truthful" mean in this context?
Being honest and avoiding exaggeration or excuses.
You want to ask a roommate to clean up more often. Which DBT interpersonal skill fits best?
DEARMAN
What's an example of "mindful" communication?
Staying on topic even if the other person tries to argue or distract
Stay focused on objective or your interaction
Avoid being reactive or defensive
What are 2 self-soothing techniques you can use before an important conversation?
Deep breathing, grounding, taking a walk, etc
In what situations is GIVE most useful?
When your goal is to maintain or improve a relationship
When is it most important to use FAST skills?
When you want to protect your self-respect
A family member gets upset when you set a boundary. Which combo of skills could you use?
FAST + GIVE (firm but kind)
Which DEAR MAN skill would help you if your request is denied?
Negotiate - find a compromise or alternative
How can GIVE and FAST work together in one interaction?
By balancing care for the relationship while protecting/maintaining self-respect