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Relationships
post-traumatic growth
Core Values/Beliefs
Shame/Guilt
Communication
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Self-Understanding, Self-Awareness, Self-Competence and Self-Attunement are examples of.....

 The four healing elements

100

The positive psychological change that can happen after someone struggles with a deeply challenging life experience. It does not mean trauma was good.

What is Post-Traumatic Growth

100

what I believe about myself, others, or the world (e.g., “I’m not good enough,” “People can’t be trusted”)

what are core values

100

I did something bad....

  • Focuses on behavior
  • Can motivate change
  • Often connected to responsibility and repair
  • Can be healthy in moderation

Example: I regret what I said or did

What is Guilt

100

Characteristics:

  • Avoids conflict
  • Doesn't express needs
  • Gives in to others

Examples:

  • "Whatever you want is fine."
  • "It doesn't matter."

Potential consequences:

  • Resentment
  • Unmet needs
  • Low self-esteem

What is Passive Communication? 

200

Can include:

  • Family expectations
  • Friends and peer pressure
  • Social media
  • Cultural and societal norms
  • Relationships
  • Work or school roles
  • Past experiences and labels

external influences

200

Inside of this we can 

  • We can reflect without flooding.
  • We can feel grief without collapsing.
  • We can take risks in relationships.
  • We can try new behaviors (Repatterning)

What is the window of tolerance 

200

Beliefs drive ____?

Behavior 

200

I am bad....

  • Focuses on identity
  • Creates isolation
  • Fuels avoidance and self-hatred
  • Often linked to trauma, addiction, anxiety, depression

Example: There’s something wrong with me

What is Shame

200

Characteristics:

  • Dominating
  • Blaming
  • Threatening

Examples:

  • "You're wrong."
  • "You never listen."

Potential consequences:

  • Damaged relationships
  • Increased conflict

What is Aggressive Communication

300

is a pattern of focusing excessively on the needs, feelings, or problems of others while neglecting one's own needs and well-being. People who struggle with codependency may have difficulty setting boundaries, saying no, or maintaining a sense of identity separate from others.

What Is Codependency

300

panic, rage, impulsivity, craving

what is hyperarousal 

300

Changing ____ can change outcomes

Beliefs

300

often creates a cycle. A painful event happens, we attack ourselves internally, we cope in unhealthy ways, and then the shame gets even stronger

What is Shame?

300

Characteristics:

  • Indirect expression of anger
  • Sarcasm
  • Silent treatment

Examples:

  • "Fine. Do whatever you want."
  • "I guess my opinion doesn't matter."

Potential consequences:

  • Confusion
  • Distrust

What is Passive-Aggressive Communication

400

1. Precontemplation

2. Contemplation

3. Preparation

4. Action

what are the Codependency Stages of Change

400

numbness, dissociation, depression

what is hypoarousal

400

What matters to me and the kind of person I want to be (e.g., honesty, family, growth, kindness). Is about direction, not achievement.

What are Values

400

Shame often leads to

What is Isolation 

400

Characteristics:

  • Honest
  • Respectful
  • Direct

Examples:

  • "I disagree."
  • "I need some time to think about that."

Benefits:

  • Healthy boundaries
  • Better relationships
  • Increased self-respect

What is Assertive Communication

500

Get Centered, Observe,Respond, Don’t React, Use Self-Talk

What is Quieting Your Emotions So You Can Think Better

500

These are examples of 

1. Relating

2. Resourcing

3. Reprocessing

4. Repatterning

5. Reflecting

6. Resilience

THE SIX R’S OF HEALING TRAUMA

500

Belief → Thought → _____ → Behavior → Outcome

Feeling
500

Is this a fact or a feeling?, Am I defining myself by one moment?, What evidence exists against this belief?What would a compassionate response sound like?

What is Challenging your Inner Critic?

500

I feel _____ when _____ because _____. I would prefer _____. 

This is an example of using what?

What are "I" Statements