Know Yourself
Name 3 things you are good at
examples: drawing, poetry, being a friend
What does it mean to “think before you act”?
Pausing long enough to consider what you're about to do and what might happen afterward.
True or False: You can like someone and get along with them without considering them a close friend.
True.
Name one coping skill that you already know works for you.
box breathing, removing herself, listening to music
What is the fastest land animal?
Cheetah!
What is something that can change your mood really quickly?
*personal answer*
You're getting irritated and your first thought is, “I'm about to go off.” What's one thing you could do during the pause?
Breathe, move away, count, ask for space, use self-talk, etc.
A healthy boundary is mainly about controlling your actions or someone else's actions?
Your actions.
When is the BEST time to use a coping skill: before you're upset, while you're starting to get upset, or after you've completely lost control?
Ideally early in escalation—although coping skills can be useful at multiple stages.
What has hands and a face but can't hold anything or smile?
A clock
How can you tell you're getting upset before you actually react?
Thoughts, feelings, body signals, or behaviors.
What's the difference between having an angry thought and acting on an angry thought?
You don't necessarily control the first thought/feeling, but you can make a choice about your response.
Your friend keeps doing something you've already asked them to stop doing. What's a healthy boundary you could set?
Clearly state what needs to stop and what you will do if it continues.
Inhale → hold → exhale → hold describes what coping skill?
Box breathing.
What singer’s real name is Robyn Fenty?
Rihanna
What's something people sometimes misunderstand about you?
*personal answer*
Someone is completely wrong, and you KNOW you're right. Why might choosing not to argue still be the stronger choice?
Protecting your peace, avoiding consequences, deciding something isn't worth it, maintaining control, etc.
Someone gets mad because you set a boundary with them. Does that automatically mean your boundary was wrong? Why or why not?
No. Another person's disappointment or anger does not automatically make a reasonable boundary inappropriate.
Why might a coping skill work really well one day but not work as well another day?
Stress level, environment, how early it was used, intensity of emotion, tiredness, situation, etc.
Which letter does not appear in the name of any U.S. state?
Q
What's one thing about how you handle problems now that you think is different from a year ago?
*personal answer* what helped you change?
What are the 3 parts of the CBT triangle?
Thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
What's the difference between being assertive and being aggressive?
Assertive = communicating clearly and respectfully.
Aggressive = communicating in a way that may threaten, hurt, or disrespect someone.
You're overstimulated because several people are talking to you at once, but you can't immediately leave. What could you do in 3 steps?
Ask for a moment, focus on one person, breathe, ground herself, reduce stimulation where possible, etc.
What is the largest organ in the human body?
Skin