Perspectives
Top three reasons clients list why they started using substances.
Trauma
Friends influence
Anxiety/Anger/Negative feelings
My parents' drug use
What is self esteem?
Belief in oneself and one's abilities!
Important in recovery to give kids confidence that they can make better choices and that they are worth it!!
When communicating with teens what is one of the most important things to allow them to do?
To "save face": Due to teens developing identities, they are extra sensitive to feelings of embarassment.
Ex: "are our families and everyone gonna see this? Oh no, I'm gonna hide in the bathroom"
Take a chill pill!
Calm down!
Motion
Money/Status
"You ain't got no motion, you broke."
Why are parents afraid when they know their kids are using?
Afraid of what will happen:
Death
Jail
Bad Consequences
What helps people feel good about themselves?
Give them positive feedback/compliments
Doing good deeds/ Helping others
Sharing
Being able to do things
What is an "I statement?" and why is it helpful when people are in conflict?
It's a helpful way to communicate needs/problems without being attacking.
"I feel {feeling word} when {event} because {reason}"
"I feel sad when you eat my ice cream because I was really looking forward to it."
"Put them on front street"
Told my personal business or called me out.
Brain rot
Low effort ridiculous/silly/meaningless content that makes us stupid.
5th grader: "Skibidi toilet Rizz - SLICES: Tung Tung Chalalalalala."
Why do substance users sometimes stay in dangerous places, or places they know are not good for them?
Scared to leave
Unsure how they will be treated somewhere else
Believe their using buddies will protect them
Cause they are addicted to something and don't want to be away from it
What are some things that keep kids around negative influences?
Connections/acceptance from others even if they are negative influences.
Feeling like it's normal for people to be that way
They've known them a long time, even before they were a negative influence.
What are some challenges to healthy communication when one or more people in a conversation are under the influence of substances?
Memory problems, aggression, drowsiness, inability to pay attention, lack of seriousness, manipulation, etc.
Gag me with a spoon!
That's disgusting!
"Turf It"
Swear on something to show you're telling the truth.
"I don't believe you..."
"On God it's the truth."
What do kids need/want from their parents to help them through recovery?
Connect with them
Invest in them during their time in treatment
Motivate them
Be available
Who will show up in your child's mind as their "inner voice?"
Can be critical or encouraging
Parents/caregivers/relatives
"The way you talk to a child becomes their inner voice."
What is something that communicates more than what we say?
WHAT WE DOOOOO!
We can watch the actions of others to understand their state of mind and values.
PHAT
Pretty hot and tempting
Six Seven!
Doesn't mean anything therefore it can mean anything, know what I mean?
"How tall are you?"
"Hahahahaha 6 7 hahahahah"
If kids are using they are often running away from what?
Feelings
Problems
People
LIFE!
How can I help my child do to build healthy self esteem?
Tell them what they're doing well and what you like about them.
Encourage them to achieve! Accomplishments help us feel proud of our abilities!
What should we do if a conversation escalates into an argument?
Take a deep breath
Walk away
Listen
Take a break and return to the topic when calm
Ducky Shincracker
Good dancer
(1940's)
It's Giving
Describes the vibe of something
"It's giving desperate...."