Anger Iceberg
Stuck Vs. Flexible
Communication Styles
Positive Self Talk
FUN
100

True or False: We have emotions underneath anger sometimes.

TRUE!

100

True or False: Being stuck and flexible is in our control.

TRUE!

100

What are the 3 different communication styles? 

Hint: they are 3 different animals

Aggressive Tiger 

Passive Turtle

Assertive Owl

100

Is Positive Self-Talk a CBT or DBT skill?

Hint: this skill has a lot to do with our thoughts..!

CBT

100

If you could choose a new name for yourself, what would it be and why?

Awesome!

200

Name two emotions that might be under anger 

Hint: (our hidden emotions) 

Nervous, embarrassed, sad, uncomfortable



200

What visual do we use to talk about stuck vs. Flexible?

Fork in the road.

200

What are examples of unhelpful communication?

Yelling

Screaming

Hitting

Hiding

Igorning

200

What is self-talk?

It's the way that we talk to ourselves in our head.

200

What is your favorite holiday, and why?

Love holidays!

300

What is a skill you can use to help cope with your hidden emotions?

Positive Self-Talk, DISTRACT, Lemons to Lemonade, Wise Mind

300

Give an example of being STUCK when your parent asks you to turn off electronics.

Ex. Keep playing electronics, throw your electronics, yell, slam the door, etc.

300

If I am ignoring, hiding, refusing to communicate, and not getting any of my needs met, which animal am I communicating like?

Passive Turtle

300

What are the 2 types of ways that we can practice positive self-talk ?

Cheerleader statements AND listening things I'm good at or like about myself.

300

If one of your toys could come to life, which one would you choose?

That would be interesting

400

Name a situation where you acted angry and thought you were angry but might have actually been feeling another emotion.

Losing a baseball game, getting an answer wrong, having to go to bed

400

Give an example of being FLEXIBLE when you really don’t want to do your homework.

Ex. Take a short break and keep trying, use TIP, take deep breaths, ask for help.

400

Which of the two communication styles are unhelpful?

Aggressive Tiger and Passive Turtle

400

Give an example of a cheerleader statement.

"You got this!" 

"You can do it!"

"You're trying your best!"

"Go ____ , Go!"

400

What would your dream vacation look like/consist of?

So fun!

500

What percentage of our iceberg is actually seen by other people?

30%?

10%?

90%?

100%?

10%

500

Give an example of a time being flexible would be helpful for YOU!

NICE JOB!!!

500

Give an example of communicating like an assertive owl.

Ex. Asking for help

Using a DEAR statement

Calm voice

Calm body

Using a skill

500

How does replacing our ANTS with positive self talk statements affect our CBT triangle?

Hint: think about the different emotions you will then feel..

It helps us feel more pleasant emotions AND have expected actions.

500

If you could learn how to do one thing, anything, what would it be? (sport, dance, instrument, etc.)

You can do it!