Red or Green Flags?
respecting boundaries, needs, and listening when you or a loved one says "No".
Green flag
Your and your loved one yell at each other sometimes and say hurtful things. Typically, your arguments do not involve insults or screaming at each other.
Healthy relationship, but this is an unhealthy behavior.
This will happen even in a very healthy relationship, since we are all human and make mistakes. It's important that this is not the norm, though.
True or false: Even a healthy relationship requires a lot of work and can be difficult at times
True.
Safe or unsafe: My partner tells me that I can't talk about our problems with my support system
Unsafe. This is a form of control and isolation.
Yes. Changing negative self-talk and thoughts about yourself will increase your self-love and self-respect. You deserve to be your own best friend and be understanding towards yourself, even when you make a mistake.
you have to be with your loved one 24/7
Red flag
After having a huge argument with your loved one, a personal crisis happens (example: sick family member). Your partner is able to put aside the arguments and anger in order to support you.
Healthy relationship
Who can we control?
Ourselves, and only ourselves
True or false: You are safe even though your loved one threatens you, since he/she does not follow through on their threats.
False
Is having a support system/support people important?
Yes. Having a loved one that can support you is important. No one should have to go through difficult times on their own.
Even after a heated discussion, you and your loved one can calmly discuss the problem, compromise, listen, and come to a solution
Green flag
You seem to give everything to your partner but receive nothing in return. You feel like you have to sacrifice yourself and your well-being in order to save your relationship.
Unhealthy relationship
DAILY DOUBLE (Worth 600 points)
What relationship skills do you (personally) need to learn in order to have a healthy relationship?
Who can you contact in an emergency?
911 or a domestic violence/emergency hotline
Why are self-care and self-love important?
It gives you back your power, allows you to be well enough to help others, these will help you recognize the way you should be treated in a healthy relationship
You or your loved one often avoid difficult conversations
Red flag
When your loved one is angry, they insult you, threaten you, break your personal items, or make you feel unsafe. During arguments, they try and stop you from leaving.
Abusive relationship
What can you do to stop an unhealthy argument is it begins to get out of control or heated?
Walk away, collect your thoughts and emotions, plan what you want to say, avoid yelling at or insulting each other, agree to discuss the problem calmly once both of you have calmed down.
Other answers are acceptable
What three things would you need to safely leave an unsafe relationship?
Medication, identification, birth certificates, children's items, clothing, a safe place to go, support, money, medical records, a trusted person with a copy of your safety plan, emergency numbers to call.
Name two ways that you practice self-care
Answers vary
Two green flags and two red flags were identified. There are many possible answers to this.
What does a healthy relationship look like? What about an unhealthy one?
Discuss
Name one stage from the cycle of abuse
Honeymoon phase (apologies, promises, and forgiveness)
Tension building (walking on eggshells, red flags, feeling unsafe)
Explosion/ Abuse happens again
What are three steps you can take to be safe?
Have a safety plan prepared, have a safe place you can go, have a trusted person with a copy of your safety plan, have an escape route, and be aware of red flags/warning signs.
(Answers can vary)
DAILY DOUBLE (Worth 1,000 points)
Name five things you like about yourself