Disagreeing Appropriately
Use a pleasant/calm voice
Step 2
You're on a singing competition show. The judge just told you that your singing was the worst he has ever heard and that you should never sing again.
Is this feedback helpful or hurtful?
Hurtful
Look at the speaker.
What is step 1?
Inner Voice
Frank looked at the ground while his teacher gave him feedback about his work. He calmly said, "Okay."
(Skill- Accepting Feedback)
Missing step 1- Look at the person.
Listen to the other person
Step 4
Your teacher told you to add more details and check your spelling after reviewing your writing assignment.
Is this helpful or hurtful feedback?
Helpful
Stay calm and take a deep breath.
What is step 2?
What does the CH in CHIPS stand for?
CHOOSE the statement you made.
Justin looked at his teacher and asked her if she had time to help him. His teacher had time, and she helped him. Justin did not say anything to his teacher after she finished helping him.
(Skill- Asking for Help)
Missing step 4- Thank the person for helping.
Tell why you feel differently and give a reason.
Step 3
What else can you do besides say "Okay" for step 2?
-Nod
-Say, "I understand."
-Thank the person for their feedback
Make a respectful response.
What is step 3?
"I can't do this; I give up." is an example of what type of inner voice?
Negative
After being told to start her work, Chantal said "Okay," but sat quietly at her desk playing with her pencils.
(Skill- Following Instructions)
"We should have school all year round."
Must show steps- look at the person, use a calm voice, say why you disagree/give reason, and listen to the other person.
Why is it good to know how to Accept Feedback?
Examples:
You will know what you did wrong and be able to correct it.
You will show others that you are able to take responsibility for your actions.
Learn from your mistakes.
Not as likely to repeat errors.
Words like "okay," "sorry," "please," and "thank you" can be included in this step.
What is step 3?
What skill was the chicken practicing which required him to using CHIPS?
BONUS (400): Give examples of his negative and positive statements.
Catching a ball
BONUS (400):
Neg- I'll never catch the ball.
Pos- I can do this. I can catch this ball.
While disagreeing with her friend, Barbara yelled saying why she thought summer is better than winter.
(Skill- Disagreeing Appropriately)
Missing step 2- Use a pleasant voice
Why is it good to know how to Disagree Appropriately?
-You are more likely to be heard.
Your point of view is more likely heard.
People may view you as more mature.
Others may be more willing to negotiate.
Name the 3 C's of feedback (different types of feedback you can get)
Compliment, consequence, and criticism
Things like Lazy 8 breathing and counting to 10 can be used to help you with this step.
What is step 2?
CHIPS this statement, "I hate doing all of this work."
(Positive statement)
Ex. I can ask for help if I need it.
I can learn from doing my work.
I can try my best on it.
Doing this work will help me be a better student.
Marcus looked at the police officer who asked him to pick up the trash that he dropped on the ground. He calmly picked up the trash and put it in a trashcan while muttered, "Whatever."
(Skill- Respectful Response)