What is it?
The hurtful behavior is on purpose and it was one sided but it is not repeated.
Mean Moment
Miranda and Kelsey sit next to each other in class. During art, Miranda takes Kelsey’s paint brush without asking. Kelsey calls Miranda a name and they get into an argument. The next day, Miranda is walking by and Kelsey tries to trip her. Miranda notices and calls Kelsey a name.
Conflict
You are working quietly in class and someone sitting near you is taping their pencil. It is bothering you and you start to feel annoyed. What would you do?
Communicate your needs with the person by being assertive
or
Do something within your control
The hurtful behavior is on purpose, it is happening repeatedly, it is one sided and it is creating an unsafe environment
Bullying
Every morning on the bus, Jim tries to trip Dwight as he is walking by. If Dwight falls, Jim tries to get other students to join in and laugh at him. When the bus starts moving and the driver is distracted, Jim will turn around and call Dwight names until they arrive at school. Dwight no longer feels safe riding the bus and does not want to come to school.
BULLYING
Purposeful
Imbalance of Power
Repetitive
A classmate has asked you to stop doing something that is hurting their feelings or bothering them. What would you do?
STOP!
The hurtful behavior is on purpose, it is happening more than once but it is not one sided.
Conflict
Jamie sees her favorite book on Erika’s desk. She thinks Erika took it from her cubby without asking, so she feels upset. She goes over to Erika and says “That’s mine! You took it!”. Erika looks surprised and says, “No, this is my copy — I checked it out from the library yesterday.” And shows Jamie the library’s name on the book.
Misunderstanding
You are having a conversation with your friends at lunch. As the conversation is going, you notice that one of your friends is becoming upset.
1. Be aware
2. Think about the conversation
3. Speak up
The hurtful behavior was one sided but it was not repeated or on purpose
Misunderstanding
Out at recess, Erika told Jamie she is bad at GaGa ball so she can't play with them.
Mean Moment
Every morning on the bus, you see Jim trying to trip Dwight as he is walking by. Jim starts laughing and looks at you to join in with him. Then when the driver distracted, Jim turns around and starts calling Dwight names until you arrive at school. How can you be an ally?
1. Speak up
2. Tell the bus driver
3. Tell an adult at school