Is it Big or Little?
Is this a big problem or a small problem?
Harry Potter lost his pencil.
This is a small problem - he could solve it on his own by looking for his pencil or getting another one.
True or False?
There are 9 Kelso's Choices.
True. There are 9, however 'share and take turns' gets taken off the wheel for older students.
Solve this problem using an I-message:
Your friend keeps saying mean things about other students.
I feel ____________________
when _________________.
Can you/we please ________________.
Name one of Kelso's Choices that could be used to solve this problem:
Two people want to use the same thing.
Share and Take Turns or Make a Deal
During a class lesson, the person behind you pokes you or touches your hair.
Ignore it, ask them quietly to stop, or move to a different spot.
Is this a big problem or a small problem?
After school you see someone playing with a knife.
Big Problem - this should be reported to an adult.
True or False?
Students are encouraged to try at least 2 of Kelso's Choices before going to an adult.
True. If you have tried 2 choices and the small problem is still happening, then it is time to get help from an adult.
Solve this problem using an I-message:
Your friend keeps talking to you when you are trying to listen in class.
I feel __(frustrated, uncomfortable, like I can't learn)__
when _______________.
Can you please _____________.
When you go calm down in a quiet space, what Kelso's Choice are you using?
Wait and Cool Off
The kid next to you in class is always looking at your work and cheating.
Talk it out, ask them to stop, or make a deal (how about instead of copying me, I can help you study). If it continues talk to your teacher.
Is this a big problem or a small problem?
Your friends want to play Minecraft but you want to play Roblox.
This is a small problem. You could solve it on your own by talking it out, taking turns playing both games, or making a deal (we can play Minecraft this time and Roblox next time).
True or False?
A small problem needs to be solved by an adult.
False. You can try to solve small problems on your own with the use of Kelso's Choices.
Solve this problem using an I-message:
You are at your friends house and they are not letting you play any of the games you want to play.
I feel _____________
when ____________.
Can you/we please _____________.
When you make a mistake or hurt someone's feelings, you can use this choice to help resolve the problem.
Apologize
You see that someone brought a lighter to school in their backpack.
Tell an adult.
Is this a big problem or a small problem?
At recess your friend trips and hits their head.
This is a big problem. Anytime someone gets hurt it should be reported to an adult.
True or False?
Using a yelling voice with Kelso's Choices will work every time.
False. Use a calm voice for better success.
Solve this problem using an I-message:
Your friend is always really nice when it is just the two of you, but gets really mean and ignores you when other students are around.
I feel _____________
when________________.
Can you/we ____________.
You don't agree on the rules for tag so you go join in the soccer game instead.
Which Kelso's Choice are you using?
Go to another game
You want to play on your own but your brother/sister/friend keeps asking you to play.
Make a deal (I can play with you for a little while, then I would like some time on my own) or talk it out with an I-message.
Is this a big problem or small problem?
Your classmates keep making fun of your lunch. You have tried asking them to stop and ignoring but every day it continues.
This started as a small problem, but since 2 ways of solving it were tried and didn't work, it is now a big problem and you should go to an adult for help.
When talking it out you should blame the other person.
False. When talking it out try to use you an 'I statement' to tell them how you feel, and what you like to be different.
Solve this problem using an I-message:
Your friend borrows your chalk but brings it back all broken into pieces.
I feel ____________
when ____________.
Can you please _______________.
You are put in a group that you didn't really want to work with.
Try your your best to work with them, talk it out if a problem occurs. We cannot always work with our friends. We do need to be kind and cooperate.