I am What I Think
The strongest drivers of how we view and react to things that happen around us.
Very high levels of emotions that are overwhelming and affect someone's thoughts and decision making in that moment.
What are intense emotions?
Speaker, method of communication and listener.
What is the communication process?
"I will not be able to get any of this jobs because I am lousy"
What is an example of the "ability helplessness" core belief?
You don't have to spend energy pushing the emotion away.
Why are accepting emotions helpful for us?
What are some examples of communication roadblocks?
The blame game, jumping to conclusion, power and control, entitlement, cutoff.
What are some unhelpful thinking styles?
An individual who can feel intense emotions and have unhelpful throughts but can hold himself back and calm his emotions down so that he can make a rational decision that will benefit him in the long-term.
Who is Mr "Think Big Picture"?
You are waiting in line to get your food in the food court. Another person pushes past you and cuts your queue. You get angry and start shouting at him and push him away, causing a big scene.
What is an example of an unhelpful communication?
Find evidence against them and keeping values in mind.
How can I strengthen my core beliefs?
Trigger, rise, peak and fall.
What is emotion surfing?
Communication is important in any relationship, as it allows people to effectively share feelings, opinions, and expectations.
Why is communication important?
Unhelpful beliefs that serve a protective function could lead us to unhelpful actions. Strengthening helpful beliefs can help contribute to positive actions.
Why is it important to have balanced core beliefs?
Delay and distract.
What is an example of coping strategies?
"I can see that you are concerned about me and I appreciate it. However, the way you speak to me sometimes makes me feel upset".
What is a good example of giving feedback?