Obligation on Whom?
The first Braisa that is quoted in our Gemara is brought in order to:
challenge our initial reading of the mishna that mitzvos of a father upon a son refers to obligations a father has to a son
In what three areas does the gemara show pesukim that parallel our honor for Hashem with honoring parents?
Kibbud, Morah, Kellala
What basic form of honor do we learn from Rav Yosef?
To stand for a parent when they enter.
How does Rashi explain how a child is meant to honor their parent in their lifetime?
By verbally attributing credit to their parent for all their tasks when running an errand in a place where their parent is recognized and respected.
Who does the gemara determine must pay for the parents needs like clothing and food?
The parents, not the child
Is a woman obligated in kibbud when married? Why or why not?
No, because she is obligated to her husband and children.
What logic does the gemara give for the parallel between honoring parents and Hashem?
Our parents are partners with Hashem in creating us, therefore they deserve honor as well.
What does the teaching of Rabbi Avimi tell us about HOW we honor our parents?
The way in which we perform the mitzvah can matter more than just the act we are doing alone.
How do we speak about a parent in first 12 months of passing and how after those 12 months?
First 12 months, "my father, my master, I should atone for his resting soul"
After 12 months, "his memory should be a blessing"
What does the braisa say is the appropriate way to correct a parent who may be transgressing torah?
You can show him what it says in the torah or let him know where to find what the torah says.
What does Rashi mean by the words, "once she is divorced they are equal?"
Equal to her brothers in the mitzvah of kibbud once she is divorced.
What halachic principle can we learn from Dama not waking his father and then asking only for the money he lost later on?
A child is obligated to forgo profit for the sake of honoring a parent/not causing a parent pain.
Why did R' Tarfon's colleagues say the way he honored his mother was nothing compared to the scenario they mention?
Because accepting discomfort to honor someone is different than tolerating harm/financial loss and not reacting.
What example does the gemara give to prove a translator can say the name of the scholars parent, even though the scholar must use another title?
Story of Mar the son of Rav ashi, saying my father my teacher, and the meturgaman saying Rav Ashi
What logical reason does Elazar ben Masya give for another mitzvah overriding the mitavah of kibbud av?
Because it is a mitavah that both father and son are obligated to do at that moment.
Why is the word Tira'u plural in the possuk Ish Imo V'aviv Tira'u?
To include both men and women
Who does a child naturally fear more and why? How does this impact the possuk about fearing our parents?
The father, because he teaches him torah. Therefore the mother is mentioned first regarding fear.
Why did R' Asi leave his mother if he was obligated to honor her? Which mitzvah was he then worried may conflict with his duty to greet her on her way?
Her demands became unreasonable. The command not to leave eretz yisroel.
What are three examples the gemara gives when defining how to honor a parent?
Food and drink, clothing, transportation
What question does the gemara raise about the fact that the son is NOT obligated to pay for the parents needs?
We know the possuk says to honor Hashem with financial input, this must also apply to honoring parents, how is this so based on the gemaras pesak?
Why does the possuk use the word Ish if both men and women are obligated in kibbud av?
Because men are more available for the mitzvah than married women
What does Rashi add to the gemaras statement that our parents are partners with Hashem?
The unique aspect that each element of the partnership contributes.
What do we learn from Dama ben Nesina not embarassing his mentally ill mother?
Generally a child can sue a parent for damages/physical harm, and does not need to allow it. In this case because he couldn't stop her(she was unwell) he chose to honor her since he couldn't change the situation either way.
What are four things the gemara mentions when defining fear/awe of a parent?
Not to stand in his place where he stands with peers, not to sit in his place, not to contradict, not to take sides with an opponent in a disagreement his father has
Why does rashi use the example of escorting the dead or burial as a mitzvah that overrided kibbud av? How does this connect to the qualification of Isi ben Yehudah that this only applies if there is no one else to do the mitzvah.
To show it is a mitzvah that must be done immediately. If no one else can do the mitzvah it cannot wait one is obligated to take care of it.